But hey I am also GAL, bought tickets the other day for a concert in Sept. all old groups, Def Leppard, Journey and Styx, should be a fun night.
Love the Lep. I'm taking my 9 y/o, who is the only 9 y/o I know that knows almost every word to every Def Leppard song, to the show with me. I've seen them many, many times over the past 20 years (including last summer) and they still rock!! Have fun!!
Hijack all you want, lol. Nope never did call, wasn't planning on it but I guess I have gone completely dark. Have not talked now for almost 2 weeks. Hope it does some good but not really planning on it. So just doing what I do, whatever that is .
I wonder what that would be like, not talking for that long? I can't really go dark, since communication with the kids is via me/him, and we see each other several times per week for pickup/dropoff.
good luck, I hope it all ends up working in your favor.
M-41 H-38 M-10 years, T-14 years Bomb-PA 3/19/07 Separated-6/7/07 Piecing/h back home 5/08 S-6 S-4 D-4
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
It has basically been a matter of circumstances. I have never gone this long not talking since we met. It hurts big time, but do not know what else to do at this time. Because of work and school schedules we actually have no need to ever see or talk to each other unless she wants too, so far that has not happened. Not sure if I should call just to say hi and whats up, or just let her do whatever she is doing.
M 41 W 33 S8 S17 Bomb 3/11/07 S 3/28/07 New beginning? 8/31/07
don't call! okay, I'm only saying that because that's what db and everyone here says. its pursuing, plain and simple. one of my best friends is a therapist and she tried to drum it into my head months ago...that if you pursue someone who doesn't want to be pursued, the only place they have to go is away...exactly what you don't want to happen. now, I'm no expert, but that makes sense to me. but then again, I have guaranteed contact with my H regularly, even if its just about the kids.
I'm sure it hurts that she hasn't called. I think this really sucks, actually, and I'm so sorry.
keep concentrating on you. and enjoy the concert!
M-41 H-38 M-10 years, T-14 years Bomb-PA 3/19/07 Separated-6/7/07 Piecing/h back home 5/08 S-6 S-4 D-4
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
I am not going to call, I realize it would do no good at this time. We have now been separated 5+ months with nothing going on one way or the other. She did her first "I want a divorce" back in march, her last time is now going on a month ago, at that time she said she filed, well she didn't. She does keep telling our son that she loves me, misses me and that she is trying. That was as of last night.
M 41 W 33 S8 S17 Bomb 3/11/07 S 3/28/07 New beginning? 8/31/07
Actually for what she is doing, is nothing. I have not snooped, per say. But I do pay the cell phone bill and that is her only phone, if you take 100 calls to or from, 90 are to/from me, 2 to her parents, 2 for pizza and 4 calling in late for work. Joking about the actually count but pretty close to accurate.
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M 41 W 33 S8 S17 Bomb 3/11/07 S 3/28/07 New beginning? 8/31/07
Sorry to hear still no contact. Think of it her getting a good dose of what her life will be like without you. I know it sucks having no contact. She is still saying things to your S so that sounds good. Keep doing what your doing. You never know when the right button will be pushed for her. Course then you still have the push/pull going on.
So when do you get to see your S again?
W: 33 H: 37 SS: 14 S: 7 S: 3 married 08/09/97 Seperated 11/02 05/07 H moved back 8/26/07
I will pick him up tomorrow from summer school and have him through Wednesday at which time she will pick him up. Then this upcoming weekend, thinking about taking him camping up in the mountains.
M 41 W 33 S8 S17 Bomb 3/11/07 S 3/28/07 New beginning? 8/31/07
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