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Well...there was dinner when he slid his chair around to sit right beside me....

He thanked me and the kids for helping over the weekend (S14 had helped Sat. and D11 actually got out there with us on Sunday!). I have a hard time with the "thanks" part myself but I try to just say "you're welcome". Last night I did tell him that he did not have to thank me, I love him and that house and both of us helping inside and out is just how it should be...anyway, he said he wasn't going to say anything because he felt like if he did, it wouldn't happen, but if the "numbers" come back right with the appraisal, "ALL of us are going to benefit". He leaned over to me and said "especially you"...

I got chills!!!!!!

OMG, i wanna lick him, so I can imagine how you must of felt.

(sigh)

HA! Liss, you tramp!

We'd come in for a break yesterday and I noticed my bikini top was SOAKED (YUCK) - and I said "Honey touch my boobie, it's all squishy!". D11 about puked and fell off the couch but he touched it!

oh SNAP!!!!!!

Oh But I am the tramp, with a virtual lick????

nuttin like squishy boobs for the guys tho. They love to do the paddleboat

I just remembered that when I said I didn't come over to do the work so it would "benefit" me, I came because he needed the help and I wanted to help him...he said "I know. That's the thing. You didn't have any idea. You just did it."

It scares me to dare to think I know what he wants to do.

Later, D11 was online, S14 was watching a movie and he was laying on the couch with his head in my lap (haven't done THAT in YEARS) and he was talking about the "numbers"...if the house is appraised at what he wants it to appraise at, we will all benefit. I asked him what amount he's hoping for and what had the appraisal been BEFORE (the one we were going to the use the $20,000 cashout to build the addition, but got SCREWED because I was in MLC). BEFORE, it appraised at 185,000. But the property values have gone up in the county and he's aiming for $205,000 now.

But how that can benefit ME, I am not sure.

If he thinks he's going to "give" me money, he's crazy because I will not take it.

I want the addition.

But I am really clueless as to what he is doing or where his head is.

And he won't tell me, because he said if he did it probably wouldn't work (and then there's the disappointment factor, too).

I'm just praying at this point because I think we're going to turn a corner, I just don't know if it'll be in the same direction or not.

Remember if you're unsure ... just "Be still"

You know, it used to be the suspense would kill me.

I feel a little apprehensive when I think about it but for the most part, I'm still and fine with it.

Now we'll see if that holds after Wednesday when the appraiser comes til whenever we get the numbers. THAT will be the test!

You know, we need a believer to appraise that house...

Someone that has that "eye".

I'll be praying for that.