I'm not sure about how, specifically, you can drag your feet in the divorce. That's where I am, too! I plan to ask for mediation, to settle our very scanty finances. I also plan to request a counseling session to determine what is best for the kids in terms of H's visitation; he sees them very little, right now.
There are statutory minimum waiting periods in most places, but almost every divorce takes at least twice that long unless both parties are actively moving it forward.
The safest plan for slowing it down is simply not to help it along. If her lawyer needs an appraisal on the house, don't arrange it for them. Let them subpeona your work for financial information rather than collecting it for them. And generally, get in the habit of not signing anything.
If you get served with a divorce complaint, you DO want to get a lawyer and respond to it. If you don't respond, they can get a summary judgement and that will be quick.
I am replying to you on here as this is your thread and there seems to be a bit of a mix up on GISH's thread as to who's who!!!
I think you need to be clear with your W about not wanting the D. I think Sara geve you good avice about the way you could say things. Don't look at the D being the final thing. There are many people on here who have even got to the court only to have the S decide not to go ahead. Some have even got D and then got back together. You need to focus on you and work on yourself. That way your W should see improvemnts and choose to commit back to you. Saffie
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
