The OW trapped him into this relationship. It's like a bad episode of Springer. He'll grow to resent her. He'll start to feel trapped.
He'll cheat on her. Because wherever you go, you can't escape yourself. He's had two affairs as a married man. His child his born out of wedlock and is the fruit of adultery.
Perhaps, God in his mercy, can shed light on their sorry situation.
You are free now. Take a deep breath. Take some time to grieve.
When you are ready, find a decent man, a man with character. A man who keeps his promises.
But remember the most important thing in Divorce Busting -- you are not defined by any man. You are going to appreciate life, every breath, in a new way.
Well put, Theoden. Couldn't have said it any better. While at one time most of us believed otherwise, none of us are defined by the relationships we have with our spouses (or ex-spouses).
I am sorry for you, hope. Grieve. Cry. And bounce back, stronger than ever. This ordeal has given you a special set of eyes that will laser-focus on only the decent men.... then you will be able to choose the best of those.
Theoden, Yes, the pregnancy really hurts. It's like a dagger in the heart. I guess OW did give him the one thing I couldn't...it's too bad she had to destroy him to do it. I am free. I am free of the drama, of the lies, and of the deceit. He has chosen his path and I will choose mine. I will live a life full of integrity and values and no one can ever take those away from me no matter how hard they try.
Mark, Thanks...my plan is to live a great life. It has given me the chance to look at life in a whole new way. I really hope I am able to eventually find a man who appreciates me.
Okay, XH finally showed at 4. I told him I thought he was going to be a no-show. He said I thought about it, but knew he had to do this sooner or later. I told him this is real you know. Yes, he said. He really is an @ss all the way to the end. He made some comment to me about smile this isn't the end of your life. I responded and said, no it isn't but it's the end of the life I knew. I was decent and civil with him to the end, but I was not going to goof around with him like everything was fine. I even went out in the 95+ degree weather to help him load some hay because no one else was able to. He made another smart comment about how we should have bought a 4-door pickup years ago. I told him...you should buy one now...he said I can't I don't have a rich wife anymore. When he left he came in the house and said well I guess that it's then. Sorry things didn't work out. I said yeah me too. He gave me a big hug and kissed me on the forehead. It's sad, but it's his mess now. I'm done.
Peace to your heart...may the Lord of all peace stand at the door of your heart and provide protection from any trouble that might try to enter...SorryDog
Phil 4:7...the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
Me 47 W 42 D 20 S 18 D 13 S 11 Married 17 yrs Asked for D Mothers Day PA found out on 6/14/07 W filed D 7/3/07 D court date 9/10/07 W moved out 7/17/07
