W seems to be definately interacting and softening up. However, all acts of affection have to still be initiated by me. The difference like I stated is that she does not "shut it down" or pull away. Her attitude afterwards is not negative.
For me to be able to trust her though I have to feel that this is something we share, not something she does to avoid tearing up our family or avoiding scrutiny. I can remember for so many years leading up to the bomb that she seem to be just going through the motions. There is no way I am going to accept that again. So how do I get where I want this to go? Time and guts will tell. I feel that it will happens, just not sure how.
