I am just beginning to see this stuff about the house. So I want to check the facts. You got an inheritance, and then paid all cash for the house putting it in both names? There isn't a mortgage?
That's correct, and by Idaho law, any money acquired through inheritance, whether put into a situation like a house under both names, is separate property and therefore all goes to the inheritor.
Oh good, Idaho law is different than elsewhere. Because in another state if you commingle the money it's no longer separate property. You will have to work this out through the lawyers. Of course you should get credit for the student loans and other payments you've made for her. So I agree, as long as you are protected by law, the house should be all yours. Why did you put her name on it?
So I agree, as long as you are protected by law, the house should be all yours. Why did you put her name on it?
Because we were married, and as long as we were married, everything was "ours." I wanted her to feel like an equal in that regard -- apparently she really took that to the extreme by thinking she deserved an equal share of it in the D. She actually believes she earned it (WAS's really are looney!).
Yep, Nikki, that was what I was trying to allude to. And I know that GD will make sure that the kids have whatever they need, when they need it. For them.
GD, has your W pulled the BS that the kids will be happier if she, the parent, is happy? She may think that your $$ will do that for her, but you and I both know that her unhappiness is much deeper than even she herself realizes right now. You'd just be throwing the money away.
I don't know which of us will end up with spouses strong enough to do the work required of themselves, personally and for the marriage. It is so completely up to them, and their own choices. I had a hard time letting H go, when his choices seem so wrong to me. But that is simply my opinion, my perception of the whole sitch. He has to be the one to live his life. And I can see that you are ready to let your W live hers.
So, now back to you and your life: any word on grad school? Any big plans in store for you and the kiddos?
I have no intention of being rude or disrespectful to W regarding anything this. I'm venting a lot here, simply because that is one of the purposes of these boards. I will be very calm, collected, and business-like when/if W and I actually discuss it. No emotion will rear its ugly head!
I wouldn't be surprised if her belief that she hit the lottery when you bought the house isn't behind the whole divorce. No wonder she's getting angry, the divorce is done and she hasn't gotten her windfall. Doesn't sound like she's planning on having a career much longer either. You better pull the plug on her soon.
D is actually is in a delay right now, and may take even longer once I make a new request to give her nothing in the decree. Just depends on whether or not she wants to fight it (nothing has been signed by me yet).
GD - that inheritance exclusion is really interesting, isn't it? We have that here in Cali too - which I've heard is a real bummer of a state to get D'd in if you're the one who has/had more $$. Everything else is really cut and dried community property, but the inheritance thing isn't.
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Good, or I may have to take you on another off-road adventure!
Definitely freaking me out again! Stop it!
Nikki,
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that inheritance exclusion is really interesting, isn't it?
Interesting and relieving (to the person with the inheritance, anyway!). I think it's a great law -- why should someone's spouse be entitled to their spouse's family death money? That certainly wasn't written into the will -- the deceased didn't mean for the spouse to get any of it. Every state should rule this way.
