I don't know Randy. There are some people on the board that have Ex's that still like to keep some connection by doing things with them. What that means or doesn't mean is hard to say. I would imagine it varies with the individual. Sorry I can't be more help.
Thanks for the replys XW was talking about someone that works for me and I just said that he was doing his job and she made a comment that maybe thats why we aren't back together yet becasue we argue all the time and I said in a very calm voice that I wasn't argueing.she then said that she wasn't getting back into a R that she argued all the time and I told her I didn't want that either and that we should work on communicating and talking and I didn't say anymore.I did say somehting a little later about that she should come down to my house and point out the rest of the stuff she wants so I can get it boxed up,she didn't answer and got really nice the rest of the evening.then last night when I was over at her house she gave me some household stuff and asked me to take it to my house. WTF is that about.Something else,I went to the store to pick up some stuff and took the girls with me and when I got back she had my dog,she had gone to my house and gotton her and brought her to the house,after supper I took my dog and went home.That makes twice in the last week she has gone to my house without me knowing.
Today she is in one of those moods that I hate.it doesn't matter how nice I am she is unhappy.She is so up and down. i vowed to keep a good PMA at least until after her surgery so I can see if it makes any difference. What do i do when her moods change.Come on WAWs any suggestions what does she have on her mind?
Don't waste time speculating what is on her mind. Its her issue and she needs to work it out. Nothing you can do about it other than remain upbeat and enjoyable and hope it may rub off on her. Otherwise, give yourself some space if her mood continues to bother you. Don't let her bring you down. Give yourself some alone time to do something you enjoy until she comes back out of it.
Thanks,I know I can't let her bring me down,now she is on a rampage about me taking the girls to lunch and my credit card.Lately she has been asking alot of ? about my bills.Last time she e-mailed me I told her that I didn't know why she was mad but that I wasn't going to argue with her
I would change the conversation to some other subject when she gets too inquisitive. Obviously you have to discuss your children, but your finances are no longer any of her business.
As to her getting argumentative, I would just come up with an excuss to leave or cut the conversation short.
Rayanne,I don't know what she is doing.After all the crap yesterday she calls last night and comes over to my house and her and the kids stay for about 3 hours just watching TV and hanging out.Everything was fine,I guess it does work to keep a good PMA maybe it makes them wonder.I still really believe that she wants everything she gave up back and if she could stay in the same mood for any time period at all maybe we could work on it,who knows in a way I guess we are working on it now.If missing the dog is what starts the ball rolling and gets her to want to be around us again thats fine if not oh well her loss.
Yesterday I took off work to spend the day with the girls since they were on spring break and we went to a movie. I droped off a bundle of fresh cut flowers at XW house and she called last night to thank me,and then she told me her aunt died and she was trying to find a flight out.I made a few calls and found her a flight so she could call and make reservations,surprisingly she was verynic. She hasn't mentioned coming over to let me know what else she wanted from the house so I could get it boxed up like I asked her about last week.I am going to try this for a few more weeks and see if things improve.Should I ask her to have a talk to see if she is planning on working on R or just keep going?
