I'm OK. Been really busy. School (I teach) as I've subbed alot this summer, recorded a record, been busy with composing and publishing, moving, etc. All is really good. Being without WS is really good. Didn't think I'd get here. With NC and moving out, I'm no longer exposed to her chaos. Life is good. Moving on is good. It's good for the kids. I told them the truth of the matter. How are you? BoB
Haven't had a chance to read your whole sitch except the first post.
Sorry about the situation with your wife. Do you have kids? If so, how often do you get to see them and how old are they? I'm glad you are doing well....
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
The kids and I left about three weeks ago. We're good. Really good. Been thinking kinda like, what took so long to do this? Kids are blossoming. Told them the truth of the matter. It's all good.
Medium sauce pan. Less than medium heat. Cover bottom with olive oil. When heated add small-medium diced onion. Heat onion to clear. Add (a lot of) garlic, I use minced. Heat another minute or so. Add medium or two small diced tomatoes. I use about three medium tomatoes. Let simmer a few more minutes. Your house will now start to smell really good. Add some balsamic vinegar. Simmer a few more minutes. Add (a lot of) basil. Fresh is best. I also add fresh ground black pepper and fresh ground sea salt, and some crushed red pepper.
Optional: Add a half bag of frozen Mediterranean vegetables. Simmer to hot.
or
A block of frozen chopped spinach. Simmer to hot.
Eat as is, or over pasta, or with (my favorite) heated whole wheat bread with or without butter.
Yummy !!! (May or may not help cold, but it's really, really, good !!!)
Your NC is doing you wonders. I am so happy for you.
NC ROCKS !!! If ya'll find yourself on the NC/LRT/Plan B it does help. You start to gain perspective. You detach. You start to see differently what others (at least in my case) are trying to tell you.
Been kinda eyeopening. I've been trying to figure out what WS and I's real problems were. NC seems to have shown me.
Here is something that may explain. I wrote this as if she started on me about how much of a f**cker I'd been or if she should start all the denial crap with me again. It's a word picture to say indirectly what her character appears to be. As always comments are appreciated: ------ You often said that you raised your brother. I remember conversations that we had where you stated that if your brother were to have a child, that that child would be better served by not having a relationship with your brother.
Reasons you cited included your brother's: -irresponsibility -dishonesty -lack of integrity -manipulation of others -alcohol and substance abuse -unreliability -selfishness and self-centeredness -laziness -contempt, disdain, and lack of respect for others -insincerity -inability to admit when he is wrong -infidelity -Etc. ------ I read some interesting quotes lately:
"The fruit doesn't fall far from the tree".
and
"Thoughts become Actions Actions become Habits Habits become Character Character decides Destiny"
