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Sorry, and, yes, that was a very good sign from your hubby. Sorry, threw in the negative without any positive.

BD

No worries! I was just reading through your sitch and I see that it has been a stressful few days for you. It looks like you are getting great advice though from that mysterious OT person...

Been a bit of a whirlwind. Looking forward to getting away from my W. I really don't like her very much right now. I'm still willing to make it work, but her decisions have been awful. Making it easier to go.

Yes, the mysterious OT gives sharp and good advice.

On a happier note, getting closer to being able to go cloths shopping. couple pounds at a time.

BD

Another good night - nothing that notable - but overall H's demeanor just seems to be a bit nicer and more relaxed around me. He was even making some small talk which was nice. Still going to continue the same though and giving him space.

That is great, I'm so glad to hear he seems to be coming around a bit!
I guess my lack of patience was shining through when I suggested that maybe a separation would help

Not an ex - I am still not sure if that is completely off the table - definately trying not to get my hopes up.

Last night was another interesting night. He left a vm for when I got home that he was going out with his brother & that he wouldn't be eating at home. I thought that was considerate. He got home around 10pm and he was like what are you still doing up? I was just straightening up the kitchen & I had just finished working out - he played with the cat a little & seemed to be in a good mood. I then told him that I was going out with a M friend of mine tomorrow night:

M: Just wanted to let you know that I am going to meet out with X tomorrow night.
H: Where are you going to go.
M: Probably x
H: Well don't get too drunk.
M: I don't plan on it
H: Is that the first time you have been out with him?
M: (at first) No, I've hung out with him before (pause - realizing he knows that) Oh, you mean since this? Yeah.
H: Yeah "since this"

I have my IC session on thurs & he has his IC thurs as well...

Had a great time with my friend last night - was great for the PMA. H was asleep when I got home...

Looking forward to my IC session tonight...Curious to see how H's goes as well...

Glad to hear you had a good time!
I will be curious also to hear how both C sessions go for the two of you. Do you still like the C you are seeing?
I need to find a good one! I have gone to two now and never felt like I was getting anything out of them.

Yes, I really like the one I am going to now. I wonder if things may have been different if the one that we had initially gone to had been better at handling our situation. But this is part of my growth - not focusing on the past and letting things go that are out of my control...

Sorry, I just wanted to jump in and say it was really inspirational reading this thread from beginning to end, savingus77. I really admire the fact that you have been able to "GAL" so successfully and that you are getting more and more response from your H because of it, but not because you are trying for responses. That is my goal right now -- I'm just trying to figure out exactly how to do so. I just wanted to chime in that I think you are doing amazingly well. Good for you!