OMG talk about 'in your face' rude!! Please tell me you didn't react? DB DB DB DB DB, he is just trying to push you. If you want to move, then move, don't move to see if he follows.
no, i didn't react. although I am sitting here fuming. How can he be so evil? I want to text him and tell him that he is just rubbing salt in the wound, but I know that is against DB. But then by not reacting, does that mean he can just do more of this crap?
No text!!!! Unless her truck is unsafe for your kids, then you shouldn't say anything. If this is one of those things that you cannot tolerate, then draw a line, but....what will you do when he crosses it again?
Well what am I to say? I can tell him it bothers me, and ask him not to do it, but he will do it anyway, because he needs to PROVE to me that I can not control him. So I can't let him know it bugs me, it is just so freaking mean of him. I don't care about all the things he said I ever did, and all the things he holds against me. There is no way in hell that what I did ever amounts to the things has done and continues to do to me within the last two months. How did I end up with someone so mean spirited, and just plain heartless?
I think (gulp) this is one of the times that you are just going to have to not say anything, because you are right. If you fought it, he would just do it again. The hardest thing for me lately is to tell myself I canNOT control H at all. I can give my suggestions/demands, but he still has the final say. Always. I have tried to just let go, but its not easy.
I know what you mean about the 'fine line' of DB'ing and being walked on. I think this is a DB moment for sure. Act as if you don't care, don't mention it, and he'll be totally surprised.
Another thing I tell myself is if there is a chance that H and I get back together, there will be a time and place for all these things to be straightened out.
no, you are lots of help lwb. if anything H is making it even easier for me to detach by doing this sort of thing, I can see how truly mean and spiteful he is.
Yes! I totally agree about making it easier to detach. Sometimes I want to reach out to H (we still live together), then an OW image will creep in and its MUCH easier to walk away.
ok another update. i calmed down, sat and watched a movie with the other kids that was really good, that got my mind off his thoughtlessness. He brought my son home a little after 8, I was really hoping he didn't get out of the truck, but he walked him to the door. I just acted like any other time, hey how you doing, etc. He walked over to grab the baby, told him I was just about to change him cuz he was poopy, so he proceeded to change the baby's diaper. I walked around did some things, and stayed in the kitchen. He then yells from the front room, ok be here tomorrow at 9:30. (I go to work and he comes and gets the baby to watch him). I said ok and thanks for taking S10 to practice and for changing the diaper. He says, you don't have to thank me for that.
DB DB DB DB DB, he is just trying to push you. If you want to move, then move, don't move to see if he follows. 