.... just been wondering whether it might be possible to swap the toupee with a piece of mangled possum pelt. Possums have that light to dark look---might be a fairly good match.
Emotionally, I've been raw. I've been having one melt-down a day. Lack of excercize and not being able to just go for a walk outside the house is getting me all tense and stressed. It seems the only release is crying.
I get sentimental all too easily. I was reading an article about John and Elizabeth Edwards and how they are campaigning together while she has terminal cancer. They are taking their kids out of school for the year and hiring tutors and taking them with them on the campaign. She wanted to give her kids a magical year. I started to weep.
I seem to cry alot for a man who is seemingly unable to have emotional intimacy with my wife (so she claims).
Your weekend sounds terrific. Very much a slice of small-town Americana. I could almost picture it.
Yoyo, I think we are all a little too predictable. My suggestions are just that, ways of me figuring out what I might do to shake things up a bit.
Please don't take them as judgements.
If there's anyone who needs a whack in the side of the head -- it's me.
I've had 17 months since my wife dropped the bomb to make the changes necessary -- and I don't think I've changed all that much.
17 months.
Why do I feel like I've failed?
I've been decent, faithful, predictable, kind and oh so nice.
I've been decent, faithful, predictable, kind and oh so nice.
Your wife doesn't know how lucky she is. Boy what I would have given for some of that a few months ago. I am very lucky my H has 'resumed normal service'. Hopefully your wife will do the same soon.
I'm not suprised you are feeling emotional at the moment. On top of all the M stuff you now have your physical injuries to get over. I have some really rough days and I haven't got anywhere near what you have to cope with.
Truly Theo - you are someone I admire. There are so many of us on this board that would love to just give your wife a good shake and tell her what she's missing out on. It's her that needs the whack - NOT YOU Saffie
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
I read how WS or MLCSs go through a "costume change" in order to fit in with a new life or new affair. I guess the "new hair" is part of that MLC or costume change. It sounds very odd to me. I spoke with Ponygirl about how these costume changes are affecting our attraction to our WSs. I can no longer see me with my H because of his "youthful" attire and body dismorphya. My H is extremely self aware of fis own male pattern baldness. His bald spot is bright red , shiny and peeling from a sunburn so he feels very aged.
Theo,
It does sound like you have changed if a man who supposedly "lacked emotional intimacy" can get sentimental over a brilliant story such as the Edwards. It is a great story BTW. Let it go. Feel alive. Absorb all the emotions because it will just make you a better, stronger person. Just don't let her see you cry or plead. My big mistake there! My H is all apathy and coldness when he used to be sentimental and sensitive.
Me:38 H:39 MLC M:10 R:23 years D6 S3 Bomb: Easter, 2007 "Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day."
Delia has great ideas.....I do think you could have YOYO's H wear the possum and she should be able to have target practice with her new gun. She might even give him a running start.
Theo , Your are an extremely nice guy. I believe maybe we were all to nice to our spouses. Your W doesn't know what she is giving up. I think one day all our spouses will surely have to wake up and see what they have lost. My H told me once that he is probably making the biggest mistake of his life wanting to leave me (but does it matter no)He seems to be full core MLC so there is not much to do. I am really impressed with the advice you give everyone. You are a special person...
