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That's so awesome that you had a wonderful day w/ the kids. I can relate -- I have 3 boys, 7, 3 & 1. Sometimes it's really hard! You do sound very strong and I would imagine that one of these days H is going to see that and wonder the the H&LL was I thinking??

Hang in there. Make sure you do special things just for you every once in awhile.

I removed my final pair of grannies just yesterday!!! I will never wear a thong but I love the new boy cut briefs. They make your butt look awesome! I have a secret about my road trip. I knew my H would see the pics, so I tried to smile with all my teeth and look really cute in each photo! He said nothing. Boo hoo. Oh well. I am glad you are having fun, Morgan.

I do miss walking around with that feeling of confidence when someone loves you just as you are. My H worshipped my body warts and all. My stretch marks were love marks from our births. My nips were for nursing my babes (2years each cuz we are hippies like that in Cali!) I would actually joke that no other man would want my body and he would say, "That's crazy, you're body is hot!" Umm, yeah, not feeling so hot now.

thanks all! and I'm starting to crack up at the great grannie panty rebellion that is going on in my thread. lol. I have this vision of you all hanging out of your windows as you toss them aside and yelling, "I'm mad as hell, and I'm not going to wear these anymore!" lol.

hey, and along those same lines, H wore those damned tighty whiteys for YEARS and did I complain? no, not really. maybe tried to steer him in a different direction a couple of times, but never pushed or anything. again, warts and all, I didn't really care (well, they were good for a laugh while on, and hey, didn't matter once off). I should have known something was wrong when he bought cuter undies.

I think its true, too, btw, that we had fun partly because he wasn't there yesterday. it was nice not to have to deal with him if the kids whined, which they didn't, for the most part, one or two moments only...and I think its because I deal with them differently when they do.

now for today. goals are to be upbeat when/if H calls. he's up at the lake with friends of his for the next couple of days (he took this week off of work). so I know they are having a great time, and suspect he brought ow, although he told me he wasn't. not sure I really believe it, but it doesn't really matter, does it?

have a lot of housework to do today, and the boring stuff like grocery shopping and other errands. but also going to hit the gym, and take the kids swimming, so should be a fun day as well. think we'll join up with some friends for swimming...will make it nice.

plan to finally start the book my therapist lent me (the river within) and really need to get working on my journal...I've neglected it for a week now, not good. and going to start DR (I have DB, just bought DR).

hoping for a good day. hoping to work toward getting my focus off of H. hard to do for me. it is. I keep bringing it all back to him, but I guess I'm still not sure what I should be doing...letting go completely (which is what all the concrete has shown me that I should do), or should I keep trying to save things? I just don't know that's possible anymore, I think its me being stubborn and holding on too long.

no fair throwing tighty whiteys in the same group as ganny undies!!

My W gained a bunch of weight after she left and that made me happy (in a vengeful way). But now she is in the best shape of her life....puke!

trust me, jack, tighty whities are definitely in the same category. I'm not asking for man-thongs here, but c'mon, there are some cute boxer briefs out there.

okay, huge proud...I hauled my butt to the gym this morning. I did NOT want to go for some reason, but I did, and glad of it. I even made myself do triceps (my least favorite/weakest body part). not saying I did a lot, but hey, I at least made an attempt. lol.

yeah, H looks better than he has in years. jerk.

I guess I'm the last to know... At least I wore the boxers to bed.

I better get underwear shopping...:)

well, at least that was something, jack. lol. hey, and maybe there are women out there who like the tighty whities...but I'll tell you, I have yet to meet one.

(now, how did my thread become the undie thread?)

a question for the ladies...how did you wear grannie panties??? literally, how? how do you wear jeans/pants/etc with them? I don't wear super low waisted jeans, but like the ones just below the waist (do they even make them higher anymore?)...and grannie panties generally come up to the waist, right? you all have made me curious now.

on non-underwear news, I've met a couple more of my goals for today. woo-hoo! good day so far. maybe the fact that I know H is a few hours away relaxes me? lol.

What about colored tighty's?

ya know, atgo, I have a friend who says, there is chocolate and vanilla for a reason...what one person likes, another person might prefer the other. I certainly don't want to become the voice of what all women prefer in men's unmentionables, because hey, the woman of your dreams might be totally cool with something I giggle at. and really, when it comes down to it, its what's in the undies that really matters. oh, okay, I suppose personality, etc, matters too. lol.

I'm sure the same can be said for women's undies. there is just a wider variety. grannie panties might be just up some guys alley. and some guys may not think thongs are the be-all end-all (hey, I know there is one out there somewhere, right?).

Yes morgan, your right, we're a society obsessed with the exterior when what really counts is what is on the inside.

I say wear what makes you happy, and long live colored tightys. Also, I love whoever invented cargo pants. They need to dedicate a bud light commercial to Mr. Cargo pants inventor.... Men of genius! We don't need no stinking purse, we have millions of pockets now!