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Exactly, just in case any OW wants to see who I am, I keep a photo of our family from Halloween on Myspace. We are all dressed up as characters from Harry Potter. Maybe it will have the reverse effect I want and get OW to like my H more, but I think it is a reminder that he used to be a devoted Dad and Husband and he belongs to his goofy Mudblood Family! My D3 then is holding a white owl! Very cute.

mkultra

One of my specialities is face painting and once I painted my H up as Dart Mall(sp?) from Star Wars. He looked really scary - I should have sent that one to the OW. Mind you to do it I had to shave his head completely - eyebrows and all - and that made him look like someone who was either going thro' chemo OR a transvestite. OW would have seen him at work then and that obviously did not put her off. It took me to do that, so I must be real scary!!!

Saffie

My journal.

It has been a good few days, W and I have been very friendly, she has laughed at a few of my jokes etc etc etc yadda yadda yadda

I was planning on going to the gym, then having dinner with my sister this evening, but W rang me late in the arvo, telling me that she could not pick DD up from after school care and whether I could. Of course I said yes.

Then she told me that DD had a school band audition at 6:30pm going through to 8:30pm. There goes my evening.

Got home at 8:40pm, W was home eating a toasted turkish roll (she can't cook and has been living off our sandwich press for 10 months).

Funny thing is I mentioned that I ran into an old school friend of hers (very good looking and very tall). I told her that she asked how W was and how the family were etc etc (she hadn't seen W for nearly 20 years).

All innocent and friendly banter. My W comes out with "So did you ask her out?". "She was really nice, and pretty from what I can remember, you should have".

I gave no indication that it was anything other than bumping into her and polite conversation. WTF.

I am living in bizarro world...................how was your day

Sounds exactly like something my H would say. Last week, he was talking to me about sleeping with someone else. He, like your wife, has this weird sense that they are going to control who we date. I think he wants to make himself believe that I will date someone not as good-looking as him. I hate to tell him...I really can only go up...He's already proven the only way he's going is down.

It is amazing what goes through their minds. I just think that they all have a problem with their own insecurities and low self worth, that they pre-empt the breakdown of a R, before they think we will.

My W was always insecure, whenever I went away for work, or whenever we went out together. I don't know why, as I would never give her any reason to be this way.

But, she always kept things to herself (unlike me), and let it fester. This is one of the reasons why I didn't see it coming (breakup). If she told me her concerns, and the things that I was not doing to make her happy, I would have changed it all. I just didn't know.

Hopefully she will be a better communicator in her new R, whoever it may be with.

Saddadinkc...............OMG! I have looked everywhere for you. I was worried. Don't do that to me again. (lol)

How are you doing? I found you on another post.....and grabbed you. Talk later.

Fathers day today, and W has taken daughter out to see her grandad. First time we haven't had breakfast together on a Fathers day ever.

W is still pleasant to be around, and we can sit and talk about our life together with fond memories (stories about DD, ourselves etc). Which is always nice. But she has made it failry clear that she is going to pursue a long term R with OM.

I told her that I wish her luck but to make sure she protects herself (as a 27 year old may have a different agenda to a 36 year old single mother).

For some reason I cannot lose my anger over OM, and the way he pursued her before my W wanted a separation and our R deteriated. I cant believe that some guys show no remorse and cannot understand the consequences of their actions. I just hope that this is not what I think it is, and he does not hurt and dump her after everything between us is final, and the responsibilites are too much for him.

My W told me that OM does not want me to be angry at him, and my W would like us to be friends some day. I don't know exactly what sort of drugs she has been sniffing, but that will never happen.

Friends someday? Oh sure, you guys can sit and have a few beers. WOW isn't it amazing what comes out of their mouth???

I have tons of anger for H's OW, she was my friend from a playgroup. Yep, lots of anger, and add a cup of feelings of betrayal and the whole 'moms should stick together' thing. UGH

Hey AndyV,

Is it possable that you can be in Vegas the week of Febuary 20th?
that is when I am planning on going and would realy like to see ya

Husband

Hey Andyv, Husband,
been busy trying to GAL. Just got all caught up in Andyv's story and I'm glad to hear you're being such a trooper. Well I followed the advice of the book that told me to start dating and I'm seeing a very nice lady that is a marriage counselor(that is also finishing up her own divorce).
She's been very understanding since her H also had an A and my W did too. It is nice to have someone of the opposite sex want me in a way that W didn't.

My wife filed, and we are in the middle of D proceedings. Attorneys are getting rich and W shows no signs of slowing the process. She has communicated with me but usually only to yell or complain about me. Much like your W Andyv, even if my W discovers what a terrible mistake she made, she would continue with D just so she doesn't have to admit she's wrong. She doesn't talk about R w/ OM and I don't ask. Much like you I also go on the emotional roller coaster(and feel like throwing up)!

My oldest S(17) has been caught using Marijuana! He told my W and me that it was because of everything that's going on. I sort of believed him but W is sure he's just using it as an excuse and doesn't think the D is affecting him at all! She's in fairy tale land because she doesn't think our D is affecting anyone adversely.

Anyway, glad to hear you've got your life. I'm looking forward to mine w/out W and w/ someone that cares about me.
LLoyd