Okay, here's an update on the "hair". Today I got home from school and no one was home yet. Youngest daughter got out of her drill team practice before oldest daughter got home. I asked her what she thought of her dad's "new" hair. She said it looks weird, I'm not used to seeing him with hair. She said the first time I saw it was the weekend we met to eat for Grandmother's B-day. She said "I walked up and looked at my friend and said does my dad have hair, that looks weird." I said "did he say anything about it?" She said "he just said he was tired of being bald." Well, that was the weekend of Aug. 11th and I just had seen him about a week and half earlier and he was bald. So I'm assuming it's a rug and not a transplant. OMG I'm getting such a kick out of this. Please forgive me for being so bad about this, but I would probably laugh if it was someone else too. You know the funny thing is I never complained about him going bald, it really bothered him, but I always tried to reassure him. The H of OW said before they left us he once asked her what she thought of my H and she said,"OMG, he's bald!" Hmmm...so I wonder if she put pressure on him. I'm sorry I think bald is so much better than a toupee! Especially like his when is all gray and gets a black toupee! What was he thinking?
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
Yoyo, I awhile back on my thread I asked for book recommendations, and you mentioned you were interested also. I never got much feedback, so I went ahead and started a thread in the Surviving the Big D forum.
Hi yoyo, Just checking on you....I am still laughing over the hair deal..My H dyed his Mustache for a while and it was real black and the boys and I kinda teased him and boy did he get mad. That was when he was trying to impress his OW. He doesn't do it anymore...But I can just picture your H's hair. Hope you have a good day....
Hi Everyone, Thanks for the comments. It's so nice to have friends on here.
I get an e-newsletter from a e-book that I bought. It is about a couple who actually survived the H having an affair. It tells his and her thoughts and how they survived. I found it enlightning. I think it may be too late for me, but still I found some things that made me understand more. If you would like a copy of it, it is lengthy, email me and I'll forward it to you. My email is klr1504@cebridge.net. Be sure to put DB friend in the subject line so that I know it's not spam.
Oh by the way my friend's husband saw the new "hair" and he was telling her how riduculous he looked. He said it is definitely a bad toupee! I can't believe H thinks he looks good!
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
Now, it would really be interesting for you to become unpredictable and dangerous.
I say do this for YOU. Cause, hun, you are way too nice. I know, cause I'm too nice also.
What would that look like?
Attending poetry readings at the local university where people smoke clove cigarettes? Maybe get hit on by a college professor who looks like Jack Kerouac?
Take up the Filipino art of Kali: stick fighting and knife fighting?
Take a mountain climbing vacation in the Rockies or the Cascades?
Take an improvisational theatre class?
Take a stab at Stand Up Comedy?
Get a few girlfriends together and rent Last Tango in Paris?
Spend a weekend retreat at a monastary?
Make a pilgrimage to a holy place that might mean something to you? Memphis? Cane Ridge? Gettysburg? Rome? Iona?
Go to an old fashioned tent-healing-revival meeting? Tell a group strangers your darkest secrets and have them lay hands on you for a cathartic release?
Go see a Rock Concert?
Go visit Wendell Berry and ask him about the meaning of life?
Theo, You are right I'm too predictable and I hesitate to use the word boring, but I've always put my family first. So my weekend is already booked. Friday night I will go to the high school booster club fund raiser where they will introduce the football players and the spirit leaders. My daughter is a stepper and she will be dancing. Saturday our town has a festival that is called Founder's Day. There will be a parade and activities and entertainment in the park. My daughter will ride on a float in the parade and dance at the park. Whew! Not exactly your suggestions, huh?
Theo, how are you doing? I hope you healing both physically and emotionally.
Originally Posted By: theooden
Now, it would really be interesting for you to become unpredictable and dangerous.
Learn how to operate and shoot a gun?
---Theoden
That could be dangerous in our states of minds! Ha! Just kidding!
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
