Your expectation was that you would get a response and when you did not, your morale took a nosedive, I hear it in your post.
That's one of the first "rules" we learn in DBing but one of the hardest things to truly let go of; expectations.
Your growth, for now at least, has exceeded hers.
AmyC,
I really did not have any expectations of her contacting me or anything like that. I really think she has "moved on." It is all about her. Her marriage vows, "Christian" beliefs and twelve and a half years mean nothing.
I am going to let God deal with her and live my life. I have grown so much. Unfortunately, I have seen just how people can be. So many people jumping out of their marriages to f#c* around. It has definitely impacted my thoughts on women, marriage and love. The truth is all relationships are temporary. I will never again consider them permanent.
As for me moving on, I have received a lot of flack from my best friend for dating other women. I think it is time to clear away the other ladies and just date her.
I appreciate your insight.
Take Care,
RMG
"The bad things in life open your eyes to the good things you weren't paying attention to before." from "Good Will Hunting"
As for me moving on, I have received a lot of flack from my best friend for dating other women. I think it is time to clear away the other ladies and just date her.
I appreciate your insight.
Take Care,
RMG
I spoke a bit too soon. My best friend really wants to be with me. However, she is still recovering from her husband's affairs and her divorce over three years ago. I am just going to press on with casually dating all of my lady friends and occupy my time while I wait for...
RMG
Last edited by RMG; 08/25/0711:01 PM.
"The bad things in life open your eyes to the good things you weren't paying attention to before." from "Good Will Hunting"
Thanks again for posting to me. I don't know your stitch either but I know D hurts. I spent this beautiful Sunday working the final draft of my D papers. Interesting that my settlement agreement is 12 pages long - a page for each year we were married.
Hang in there guy. You seem to need more time on your journey. That is okay, take all the time you need. But check every now and then to see if there is progress.
I noticed the Château d'If reference. The Count of Monte Cristo offers so much for our journey. Edmond Dantes grows from a boy into a man in that story. Everything he endures is what we must endure to become the men we were meant to be. Plug in that movie again - and watch the boy grow into a man. Look at it on a deeper level - treat the imagery as the metaphors they are.
Is he in prison or is the prison within him? Is the old priest really there or does he represent Dantes inner turmoil and growth? Does Dantes remain in prison or does he risk the unknown by going over the cliff? Is the treasure money or the wisdom he acquired? Is revenge his motive or a means to a just end to prove himself a man?
Thanks again for posting to me. I don't know your stitch either but I know D hurts. I spent this beautiful Sunday working the final draft of my D papers. Interesting that my settlement agreement is 12 pages long - a page for each year we were married.
Hang in there guy. You seem to need more time on your journey. That is okay, take all the time you need. But check every now and then to see if there is progress.
I noticed the Château d'If reference. The Count of Monte Cristo offers so much for our journey. Edmond Dantes grows from a boy into a man in that story. Everything he endures is what we must endure to become the men we were meant to be. Plug in that movie again - and watch the boy grow into a man. Look at it on a deeper level - treat the imagery as the metaphors they are.
Is he in prison or is the prison within him? Is the old priest really there or does he represent Dantes inner turmoil and growth? Does Dantes remain in prison or does he risk the unknown by going over the cliff? Is the treasure money or the wisdom he acquired? Is revenge his motive or a means to a just end to prove himself a man?
Strength and Honor.
Jeff223,
The funny thing is Kim thought it was a story of revenge. To me, it was a story of a young man who had the woman he loved, a promising career and promising future. He was very much like me. In an instant, everything he has is ripped from him. Again, this was very much like me.
He goes through turmoil struggling how God could allow this; he seriously doubts God. Again, that is me.
He finds the priest to guide him. God sent me an angelic woman named Teresa to guide me.
I have found my treasure as he did; mine is finding myself again, renewing my faith, meeting new friends and having my own business.
The revenge part is pretty easy; I am going to live each day to the fullest, love the people around me with everything within me and glorify God with everything I do.
On to your questions:
>>Is he in prison or is the prison within him?
I believe it is both.
>>Is the old priest really there or does he represent Dantes inner turmoil and growth?
Again, I believe it is both.
>>Does Dantes remain in prison or does he risk the unknown by going over the cliff?
I think he had a choice to change his life by going over the cliff. You and I were thrown off the cliff.
>>Is the treasure money or the wisdom he acquired?
Again, I believe it is both.
>>Is revenge his motive or a means to a just end to prove himself a man?
I think it is really revenge to inflict pain on this who wronged him so terribly.
BTW, I was married for 12 years as well.....
RMG
Last edited by RMG; 08/26/0708:15 PM.
"The bad things in life open your eyes to the good things you weren't paying attention to before." from "Good Will Hunting"
No, we were thrown into that deep dark cell. Thrown aside, left for dead, and forgotten. But you and I now have the insight and the tools to escape that cell even if it means going over that cliff. Because we are men and we accept the challenge before us.
The story is about revenge - but the best revenge is living well with compassion for all. Even for those who tossed us in and locked the door behind us.
No, we were thrown into that deep dark cell. Thrown aside, left for dead, and forgotten. But you and I now have the insight and the tools to escape that cell even if it means going over that cliff. Because we are men and we accept the challenge before us.
The story is about revenge - but the best revenge is living well with compassion for all. Even for those who tossed us in and locked the door behind us.
Go well - make it a great week.
Jeff,
You are right. We were thrown into that deep dark cell by our Ws who were supposed to love us. That is the toughest part for me.
It was not being betrayed by a woman with whom I was romantically involved. Romances come and go. Rather, being betrayed by someone who is THAT close to you for 12 years. It is really different.
Teresa believes Satan chooses to have us attacked by the one closest to us because it is the most effective. That is so true!
RMG
"The bad things in life open your eyes to the good things you weren't paying attention to before." from "Good Will Hunting"
