I am going out with some friends tonight to a martini bar.
No drunk posting for you tonight, OK. If you need a designated typier get one.
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I am going to stay strong, but I really do hope that H contacts me to get together this weekend to have a true heart to heart.
I hope this does happen and works out for you. I personally am overly caustious now about putting myself out there for my W to run over. If this does happen ask questions and let him lead the conversation. The last time I opened up to my W there was not much of a response. She did not say anything at that time, but she has since tried to guilt me with some of the things that I said.
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On the 29th, I will be celebrating my divorce and going out on my first date...just kidding, but that probably isn't too far around the corner for me.
I bet you are not kidding. Judging by the line that is forming for you, you are going to be busy for awhile. Try to leave sometime for us here on the boards.
One of my Favorite scenes from Under a Tuscan Sun is when her friends give her a cake once she is divorced from her cruel husband. I love that attitude even though I am DBing!
Me:38 H:39 MLC M:10 R:23 years D6 S3 Bomb: Easter, 2007 "Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day."
I hope this does happen and works out for you. I personally am overly caustious now about putting myself out there for my W to run over. If this does happen ask questions and let him lead the conversation. The last time I opened up to my W there was not much of a response. She did not say anything at that time, but she has since tried to guilt me with some of the things that I said.
I am not putting myself out there anymore for H unless he initiates. Just like you, I have in the past with no response and that is very painful. I have a lot that I could say to him, but he is the one that is going to have to spill his heart out to me first.
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Judging by the line that is forming for you, you are going to be busy for awhile. Try to leave sometime for us here on the boards.
Did you mean time for dates with guys on the boards...or time to post on the board?
It is hard to hold back with someone who keeps secrets. there will always be those "why" qustions. I know I am as confused as heck. I know I will never understand so I have to know that I will never know closure on this subject. I guess that is what self help books and therapy is for.
Me:38 H:39 MLC M:10 R:23 years D6 S3 Bomb: Easter, 2007 "Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day."
Just like you, I have in the past with no response and that is very painful.
It hurts like hell when our S's cannot reciprocate our feelings back to us. The last time I opened up to her I actually asked my W to not to say anything, no facial expressions, just hear what I have to say, and then I will leave. That was a little easier then having her respond by telling me that my love was insufficient, she was never in love with me, and has thought about leaving for the last year.
If I ever open my heart to my W again it will be because she opened up to me first and does not tear me down while doing so.
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Did you mean time for dates with guys on the boards...or time to post on the board?
Since I am a married man I meant time to post on these boards....But then again I will soon be single, you might want to leave a few open dates for us guys here.
On a more serious note, have u heard from Theo yet? Not so seriously, do you think Delia and Theo have eloped together - neither have been on the boards lately.......
Saffie
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
You have a lot of life ahead of you. I am truly sorry that it has come to this for you. You (and most of us here) deserve so much better than the hand our spouses have dealt us. I am genuinely sad for you. And, listening to my wife (and watching her actions with OM), I am right behind you.
I have no doubt that you will bounce back. You are attractive, well-educated, articulate, and intelligent (I know this from reading your posts and seeing your pics). Hang in there, and have confidence in yourself.
If things don't work out for me, Can I get in line?
Sure, you can get in line...but I do have to warn you that I already have my eye on a different California guy...an old friend. Oh and I don't want to make Saffie jealous.
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Any contact regarding you messege to you H yet?
No, not a peep. Looks like I won't hear from him. Looks like my marriage will be over on 8/28...I guess that's for the best.
Mark,
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You are attractive, well-educated, articulate, and intelligent (I know this from reading your posts and seeing your pics)
Thank you. I really appreciate this. It seems that when you are at your dimmest moment, everyone on hear can help pick you back up. Good luck with your sitch. I hope it takes a turn for the better.
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Hang in there, and have confidence in yourself.
It is very hard to pick yourself back up from something like this. I know it is not easy on anyone, but I never expected to be in this sitch...not that it makes it any harder, but I think I was a little naive and less prepared.
