I can't promise I'll have it figured out in a week, but hopefully I will have gained a little insight at least.
If you get it in a week... you're a flippin' genius. Do what you can. Yes, the insight...
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I missed something with the feeling where in my body I feel the emotions. I never really noticed any locality to my emotions, but probably just because I wasn't paying enough attention. I'm not sure where you are going with this, but I'll give it a shot.
Exactly. You may have a hard time figuring it out, at first. Sometimes, you may not feel it 'anywhere.' Which means you probably aren't feeling something intensely. But I guarantee you, when you are angry, and you are really angry? If you think about it... if you notice it... you will recognize where it is landing in your body. That is the ENTIRE point. At least at this point.
Not to jump ahead... but once you learn how to do this... and you are 'aware' of where your feelings are located within your body... that means you have recognized and acknowledged your own feelings. In so doing, you now have a CHOICE to let them go, IF having the feeling is not serving your present purpose... without burying it. You honor the feeling.... but it doesn't necessarily influence any act or reaction you consciously decide to take.
Sometimes... you say 'screw it.' And you indulge the feeling. In so doing, there is a part of you that will feel momentarily 'out of control.' And I doubt you enjoy the experience.
Why not just post the dictionary, while you are at it? And why do you need to list it out? Cannot these people, who are thinking, rational adults, identify their own feelings, without your laundry list?
Well, you asked GGB to identify where his feelings were localized in his body. "What feelings?" one might ask. How can you locate the feeling without knowing what the feeling is?
I think it's useful to identify the nuances in feeling. For example, I might say: "I feel sad," thinking that covers it. But looking at this list (or another one like it), I figure out that I feel "gloomy, dismal, heavy-hearted, abandoned." Those are very mournful words that seem to indicated a loss of something or someone. Or maybe I say, "I feel sad," but when I examine that general feeling more closely, I realize that I feel "hopeless, helpless, confused, wishy-washy," which seem to be about my judging myself as incompetent and a failure at something.
I can say "I feel BAD..." but that covers a lot of territory. Anger can be anything from annoyance, disdain, contempt to murderous rage...
Well, you asked GGB to identify where his feelings were localized in his body. "What feelings?" one might ask. How can you locate the feeling without knowing what the feeling is?
Given that GGB is an intelligent humaan, I would suppose he could identify his own feelings, with appropriate adjectives, without the assistant of you or me.
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I think it's useful to identify the nuances in feeling.
You are a woman, accustomed to identifying nuances of feeling. I was speaking TO GGB. Not you, someone accustomed to identifying nuances of feeling.
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For example, I might say: "I feel sad," thinking that covers it. But looking at this list (or another one like it), I figure out that I feel "gloomy, dismal, heavy-hearted, abandoned." Those are very mournful words that seem to indicated a loss of something or someone. Or maybe I say, "I feel sad," but when I examine that general feeling more closely, I realize that I feel "hopeless, helpless, confused, wishy-washy," which seem to be about my judging myself as incompetent and a failure at something.
You assume much. Hence, my reasoning for asking GGB, and not you. Men, and you correct me if I am wrong, do not think in terms of the laundry list of emotions, when it comes to YOU, that Lil has posted.
Best let men speak for themselves. You will typcially get their best response, they are capable of giving, at the moment. In THEIR language, not ours.
Given that GGB is an intelligent humaan, I would suppose he could identify his own feelings, with appropriate adjectives, without the assistant of you or me.
This has NOTHING to do with intelligence. I don't believe that any of us, male or female, is used to really figuring out what we feel.
I'm puzzled that you felt it necessary to protect GGB from me. Don't you think he can speak for himself?
You've put me in my place. Proceed with your agenda at your pace.
BTW the expression is "my tack" not "my tact." Tact is diplomacy; maybe you should look that one up, too.
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tack1 /tæk/ Pronunciation Key - Show Spelled Pronunciation[tak] Pronunciation Key - Show IPA Pronunciation, –noun 1. a short, sharp-pointed nail, usually with a flat, broad head. 2. Nautical. a. a rope for extending the lower forward corner of a course. b. the lower forward corner of a course or fore-and-aft sail. c. the heading of a sailing vessel, when sailing close-hauled, with reference to the wind direction. d. a course run obliquely against the wind. e. one of the series of straight runs that make up the zigzag course of a ship proceeding to windward.
3. a course of action or conduct, esp. one differing from some preceding or other course. 4. one of the movements of a zigzag course on land. 5. a stitch, esp. a long stitch used in fastening seams, preparatory to a more thorough sewing. 6. a fastening, esp. of a temporary kind. 7. stickiness, as of nearly dry paint or glue or of a printing ink or gummed tape; adhesiveness. 8. the gear used in equipping a horse, including saddle, bridle, martingale, etc. –verb (used with object) 9. to fasten by a tack or tacks: to tack a rug to the floor. 10. to secure by some slight or temporary fastening. 11. to join together; unite; combine. 12. to attach as something supplementary; append; annex (often fol. by on or onto). 13. Nautical. a. to change the course of (a sailing vessel) to the opposite tack. b. to navigate (a sailing vessel) by a series of tacks.
14. to equip (a horse) with tack. –verb (used without object) 15. Nautical. a. to change the course of a sailing vessel by bringing the head into the wind and then causing it to fall off on the other side: He ordered us to tack at once. b. (of a sailing vessel) to change course in this way. c. to proceed to windward by a series of courses as close to the wind as the vessel will sail.
16. to take or follow a zigzag course or route. 17. to change one's course of action, conduct, ideas, etc. 18. to equip a horse with tack (usually fol. by up): Please tack up quickly. —Idiom19. on the wrong tack, under a misapprehension; in error; astray: His line of questioning began on the wrong tack.
Seriously, the questions you pose seem easy only initially. The slightest attention payed to them, however, and they become very engaging. Same with the feelings excersise. Should we post here or, as DIY, on our own thread?
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Lucky me, I could have been someone else FOREVER! Whew, that was close!
