I agree with ediemarie that the email sounds sincere. Sometimes I think people run and run, doing whatever it is they do, so that they don't have to stop and look at who they are themselves. Whether it be that they have all consuming hobbies or go off and have affairs, for some reason they are not happy within themselves. This can only be addressed when they are brave enough to stop and look at themselves in the cold light of day. It's frightening, and they probably don't like what they see, but they start to recognise that they need to change. Does this make sense?
I sort of get the feeling that maybe your W has reached the point where she is looking at herself and wanting to change. If that is the case then you may have a really good opportunity here. Saffie
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
If you are unhappy, you raise your hand and say so. You do not cross the line again. ================================= if only, all our heartbreaks would've never happened, I bet she, like my H thought she'd leave enough "hints" or that you should've realized it by then.
I hope she is truly decides to get off her drug aka affairs. A book I highly recommend is "Healing the hurt in your marriage"
And let me congratulate you on being a superb father and on thinking of your children, they have an awesome dad.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
I think to keep your kids safe you should stay with your wife regardless of her cheating. I have bad feeling that if you did divorce she'd be living with different men and bringing them around the kids
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
