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Oh yes, my joy of cooking has FLOWN out the window too !!!!

Than we should all get together for a big cooking fest!

Sounds great - have you ever seen 'Under the Tuscan Sun'? YOu remind me so much of the leading lady ! Fixing up your house and now with the cooking fest !!!

That must be so nice to do that work Bam.

Things like that are so rewarding.

Hope everything goes well in the house.

By the way, I am not sure what I like more in the kitchen for flooring. I have had tile and hardwood. The hardwood is nice but dents easily if you drop something on it. But the tile breaks things when you drop them on it. lol.

Go with your gut and what you like.

Good luck.
Mimi

With two dogs......I have my entire house tiled. I could never ever have rugs

It's bad enough when it rains and theres 879 paw prints throughout the house!!!

I hear the new laminate flooring is very sturdy!

I CAN'T WAIT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I wanna sponge
wallpaper
paint
crown mold
pick out curtains
rugs

Yayyyyyyyyyyyyyy

Under the Tuscan Sun

Love xxx

Cinders,

I've never seen it, but heard it's great. Maybe I'll rent it tonight

I can't wait to help you decorate, Jeanette! I will email pics soon!

Nothing new today. Having a hard time even talking w/H....I just don't like him much. Kids told me they were staying w/him the night before the 1st day of school. Why did that piss me off? I told them they could do whatever they wanted and it was fine with me. Grrrrrrrrrrrr.....

One of my boys is having a hard time right now. He told me that he likes staying with his dad but he HATES his house. Said it feels like a trailer and is not homey at all. We talked about buying some things for him to put in his room, but he said he didn't think that would make a difference. Sigghhhhhhhhhhhhh!

I have someone coming to look at the house next week. Their price range is lower than what we would be asking, but w/o realtor fees it could be ok.

I just want to be on the other side!

Ahhh Bam!

It's the being a kid thing hun, don't take it personal. You don't want to get caught up in the drama of who likes who more. Just know they love you both and it's hard for them too. Little buttheads

I've been packing and cleaning all day in hopes to get this house really ready to be sold. I half aszed did it before in hopes offffffffff..............whatever. Now I am serious. This place needs to only have the bare minimuns in it. I'm tired of keeping it all clean to show.

I want to be on the other side too. I want to be able to go places and do things, not be trapped in the prison cell of what used to be my beloved home.

Race you to home depot!!!!!

Jeanette

BB,

Been quite a while since I've checked in. For my own reasons, I've "been away".

I hope you are doing as well as it sounds, but good golly, you sure are going through a lot, and so are the kids. In my opinion, this stuff is never OK, just something we try to get through.

But what do I know, I'm out of bail right now! Yeah, true story. I violated a BS restraining order my W filed and got arrested. See my thread for the gory details. Look at it this way, whenever you think you've got it bad, just look at my sitch and you'll feel better. At least you are not being arraigned on Monday, and the following Monday you aren't in court to protest having your children being 100% taken from you. Am I bitching? Sorry.

Ugh.

Be well.

DNQ

DNQ,

Sighh...I'm so sorry. You are really struggling and understandably so!

I'm kind of down tonight again. Part of the journey, I know. I am back to schoool and had teacher days yesterday and today. One of my good guy friends and I talked for a long time as I filled him in on my sitch and that I filed. He said "Good for you! I think he has been hiding stuff from you all along and thought maybe you were in denial" ughhhhh. Also told me that weirdo baseball mom's name came up about a month ago....heard she'd been sleeping with some other guy.

Last night we had open house at school and I took D8. Boys went w/H b/c he had a booth to run. When D8 and I got there, weirdo baseball mom (whom I think he is now seeing???) was hanging out at his booth w/him and her boys were all over him. When I left, I looked over and her S8 (in my D8's class - ahhhhhhhh!!) was on the back of H's chair w/his arm's around his neck. I gave him a shi**y look and left.

When H came to get the kids later, he tried to talk w/me and I answered and went upstairs. He came this morning to get kids off to school and I didn't say 2 words to him. Not rude. Just ignored him.

I think this is another corner I'm turning. I'm really trying to let him go b/c he is just is not the man I know and not one I every loved. But, it hurts me sooooo bad to know he is still being unfaithful, even when I asked him to wait until D was final. My mind knows the facts and that he is an alien blah blah blah. My heart doesn't see it that way.

Sometimes, I think I will never find another partner who is whole...whom I can trust completely......whom I have complete faith in. That makes me truly sad. My heart is broken, my faith shaken and my soul shattered. Tonight it just seems so dim.

ON a brighter side, the drywaller has started upstairs and the heating/cooling guy is coming Thursday to run heat/air to the upstairs. Slowly, but surely.