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morgan, LOL I guess what I own aren't technically granny panties, they are bikinis. I just felt the metaphor fit perfectly.

Good job on working out today! I felt sluggish all day until I went running. Mind you, I did *not* want to run, but now I feel better.

As Time Go,

You may want to reread Morgan's post about what is on the "inside" she might not have been as deep as you give her credit for...:)

I've never thought too much about women's underpants, most of the time when you get to that point you are already focused a step or two ahead...

This is a fun subject.

jackw, I just come off sounding deep and sophisticated when my mind is really as far in the gutter as Morgan's.

But seriously, for the sake of honesty, I'm shallow in some respects and probably think of women's undergarments more than I should.

Hey!

oh, alright, I'll cop to it. what can I say, its been 2 freaking months, my mind easily strays there. lol, love how the men have come out, not about my previous baseball post, but about underwear. lol.

lwb, bikinis are fine, at least in my book. I would never refer to them as grannie's, so you have my blessing. lol. gee, did you need it? and great job running. sometimes the days its the hardest to w/o are the days it ends up feeling the best. not a runner (trick knee) but oh how a great a good sweat feels!

Back to baseball.... What is it about the Yankees beating up on my poor Indians?

damn yankees.

I actually have no idea where anyone is, standing wise, this year. just haven't paid attention. I love baseball...love going to games, love watching it (not every game, but on occasion), used to love listening to it on a summer day on the radio. brings me back to sunny summer days listening to vin scully. in the '80s I was a rabid cardinals fan. even used to read the box scores, started with the sports page every day, etc. Somewhere along the line that faded, but still can't imagine summer without baseball of some sort. which is why I can't believe its august and I have yet to get to a sox game! and H, who promised me tix (grumble grumble) never game thru (he has tons from work). you'd have thought he'd have offered them up as a consolation prize, right?

oh well, I'm keeping the september wicked tix!

I did need your blessing for my bikinis!! lol

Funny thing, morgan, since we both have young kids, throughout the day, I will think of you and think "I wonder what she is doing with her kids right now?". Silly me. But I know you know my heartache, and how hard it is to get through some days, so maybe that's why I can picture you.

And yes, the running really boosted my energy today, when I needed it most since on the way to a meeting, my 5 yr old tells me:

D5: Mom, I saw ___ (ow's daughter) at school today, and then I saw Miss ____ (ow), and Miss ____ got her haircut really short.

Me: Really, I am glad you got to see your friend, that's great.

D5: She (OW) got her haircut like my cousins. Its so short. Dad, did you see Miss ___'s haircut yet?

H: Nope.

I wanted to crack up soooo much because H was probably wanting to bail out of the car at 60 mph!!! Honestly the conversation didn't bother me and I am glad D5 saw her friend, but it was just one of those things. You go about your day, and BOOM, reminders!!

not silly, sweet. I think it provides an instant connection, having kids the same age. I'll tell you, if you thought of me today, the answers wouldn't have been too exciting...gym,doing housework, refereeing battles over this or that, grocery shopping, watching jungle book (and promising for the umpteeth time that the tiger does NOT eat mowgli). they were sweet as all get out today for the most part...colored me dozens and dozens of pictures. thankfully only asked about daddy a few times...that part is hard. I've learned not to placate, which is the wrong thing to do, but the instinctive one, at least for me. still, awful. but no heartwrenching moments, so a good day.

omg, about the conversation with your D5...omg. your H must have been squirming something awful. and I can just see the blissful, oblivious 5 year old rattling on, having no realize the affect her chatter is having on mom and dad.

and somehow or other, I'm facinated with the fact that OW cut her hair...maybe an act of penance? lol.

morning all. yesterday was a good day overall. even started DR, just read the section on infidelity. nice that that was included, I don't remember it being in DB at all, especially the bit about when H doesn't end the affair. but I'll admit to almost snorting at the parts where H would feel bad/want to make ammends. Guess I really don't see that happening.

busy day today. therapy this morning, a couple of errands, than mostly just outside time with the kids. its supposed to be a gorgeous day here...might take them to a local farm if we have time, or might just play at a friends house (my friend and her kids are watching mine while I'm at therapy). we'll see what the day brings. will NOT hint around about ow when H calls. if she's there, she's there. if she's not, doesn't mean their relationship is over, so why bother?

no gym today, but will do my ab tape. its a small goal I've set for myself recently. not a fan of abwork...love the results, but tend to blow thru it at the gym. doing my tape slows me down. I did good with it last week, continuing this week.

wow, babbling today. hope everyone has a good one!

Hey Morgan, about that ab tape. I have lost some weight since my 20th reunion is coming.....and I am sometimes depressed.....and I lose my appetite when my mom says things about them.....yeah. Anyways, I still have ...um...not tight abs. You had twins... How do I...ya know..... Write back!

I also cannot visualize my H being apologetic to me about his infidelity because it keeps getting deeper. No remorse in sight. He only feels guilty to his mom and my D but not to me, not one bit. Why not? He knows it is wrong, why else would he lie? But to my face, he acts like so what. OK. Like I deserved it or wanted him out of my life so badly so this is what I get? I dunno. That chapter is good but he is so entitled to his ongoing affair. He just thinks he has a new girlfriend because we broke up and I am just an annoying stalker with no right to care or feel heartbroken.
Sorry more babbling!

Good idea about the farm. I think I will do that with the kids too. Cycle of life, nurturing things instead of destroying things, fresh air, real work.