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Wow...another thread locked. Time sure does fly when your having fun...

Anyway after last week being so tense and emotionally charged I decided that I was just going to "take a break" from all of that. Just made the decision to put all of the R/M/S out of my mind and enjoy myself. Aside from the MC sesh on Saturday I did a pretty good job of not thinking about the sitch and just living my life.

Not much to report otherwise. Went to a BBQ with my cousin who is also newly separated yesterday and every adult there was either newly divorced or separated. Not one couple. Everyone had their kids too. It was strange. It was an eye opener to see how common it is. There was a vibe in the air like we were all there trying to GAL as best as we could. You could tell some of us were kind of floundering around trying to be social but not too social.

My D had a great time with all the kids so for me it was worth it. Met a lot of nice people.

Hope everyone had a great weekend.

Hi. Did you make any decisions on the child custody issues that you want to share?

Nomo

Hey Nomo

Good to hear from you! Thank you again for the advice last week.

Yes, the issue was discussed a little further. I told H that I didn't think his plan was fair and that I wanted another weeknight and that the nights I had her would be overnights with me driving her to school in the morning. So as it stands now we each have two weeknights/1 weekend night and we each have her 1/2 day on Sunday. Its almost a complete 50/50 split, which is what I wanted from the get go.

I am taking the attys advice and just documenting the heck out all I do. The days I have her, who made lunches, gave baths, dropped her off at school. School has a log in so I shouldn't have trouble verifying. Hopefully it won't come down to a nasty custody battle or the big D.

I feel much better about the whole thing either way.

Hey WAW

Hey WAW,
Glad to hear that things worked out better for the custody arrangments.

Hey WAW1978...
glad to hear it worked out too.

I tried to pm you, but it said you were over the limit.

would love to chat if you can....just pm me with an email address if interested. Wanted to hear from the 'other' side of the controlling issues.

See ya!

Weekend:

In a nutshell…spent too much time at my house with H. He is supposed to go to his sisters or parents the nights that I have D4 but this week when I had two nights with her (Thursday/Friday) he had some work to do and stayed home. I know he can only do work from our home PC since it connects to his office so I really couldn’t object. I took D4 to see a movie on Friday and he wanted to come so I said no problem and we all had a good time, it was good for D4 to have some family time.

Then we have the MC sesh Saturday AM and he tells the MC that things are really great and “getting back to normal”…well there not. Nothing has really changed. So I have to be the bad guy and state this. Yes, we are getting on better but it’s because we do not have daily interaction so there is little to disagree about. As usual…we both leave MC feeling defeated and sad. He is still looking for a quick fix. I am still looking at down the road. Right now we just can’t be in a healthy relationship. He is a bully and let him bully me. Until we both make changes its just not going to work.

Bittersweet event, my duplex is finally ready and I move in this week. I have had some fun shopping for furniture…but on my limited budget most of my stuff is from IKEA…I am handy so hopefully I will be able to assemble all my furniture without hassle. I feel like I am in college again…I almost bought a futon for the living room but just couldn’t lower myself!

Gollum, I don't have home PC access at the moment which is prob why my mailbox is full. Cannot access it from work.

Awww, WAW, I understand. I have not bought a thing for my apt as I cant do it! It is too painful to be reminded of something you thought you would never have to go through again . I understand your feeling, believe me.

WAW,

At least you can afford IKEA. I think I might be stuck shopping at Target or Wal-Mart, blech. Looking like I'm headed for separation as well. A shame about your H, he obviously wants to be with you but just doensn't get it. That has got to be frustrating. Good call on the futon, I think you're juuuust too old for one.

Saw your coining of "DILF" on CVA's thread. Here's to hoping someone feels that way about me again someday -- hopefully my W.

BD