You sound like you are handling everything well. I know it wasn't easy to hear that but from what you say about your x's response, it doesn't surprise me.
These MLCers run when they feel trapped. Think about it? All the cliche phrases we hear.."I feel like a hamster on a wheel, I don't know who I am anymore, I am not where I want to be in my life" and on and on.
Now, I can just imagine the WORST thing these guys want to hear is that "I am pregnant". Especially, if that is heard from someone they are not getting along nor see a future with..
Yikes.
As for you, young lady, you have come such a long way. Just reading your post today made me feel so proud!
I think it is very wise of you to leave this all alone. And, it wouldn't surprise me a bit if you know who comes knocking on your door one of these days..Be prepared..
Keep us posted on how you are doing and let me know what else is knew in the world of "whitelight!"
Maybe God was putting these things - this information, these heartbreaks in front of you to make you stronger and to force you to move on. And now, you needed that last little push over the edge to really move on and put him behind you.
Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.
MTN!!! Love you. You always provide strength to this site.
My gfriend said something very helpful yesterday. She said, when you concentrate on the memories, you are protecting the past. You need to protect your future. Nice and so right.
TMW, I think you are dead on. End of chapter, close book.
Next up I will be posting about the fabulous new guy I have met. The wonderful steps forward my career has made, and the happiness and love that fill my life.
"Next up I will be posting about the fabulous new guy I have met. The wonderful steps forward my career has made, and the happiness and love that fill my life."
Oh Sweetie, I'm so sosrry this had to happen with pain. I'm so sorry it had to happen at all.
But I am so glad and proud of your attitude. It seems clear that there is no real relationship with this new person--I don't want to call her an OW since they got together after he left--right? That wouldn't be fair to her. None of this is fair to her because she was his rebound. It sounds like he feels stuck and since he's stuck he might as well not try to move...hence he doesn't know how he feels, no lving together, no marriage....none of that yet.
Just keep living your life as it is meant to be lived and joy will always be at your side.
You sound strong, but I do know that this must be extraordinarily difficult, even if they don't plan to get married, or even live together. This is one of the dreams that you had for YOUR life with HIM, and now someone else is getting it.
But I can tell you from experience, that a naricissitic man does not make a good father, and he will be unlikely to provide his gf with the support she would like to have, nor would he have done so for you. WL, I was/am married, and my M is still ending. I prayed for its restoration, but it didn't happen. It seems that God has other plans for me. Like you, I don't understand why, since we made vows to Him - but that's what's happening. I'm not really sure that being M helped much, so don't go feeling guilty about that, if you are.
You will indeed replace him, with someone far better - you just need to recover first, from your R with him. This shocking news may or may not help, but in the long run, you will make your life wonderful.
You have changed so much from even a few months ago; you have been helping me so much and I really appreciate it. You are a special woman, and you will be blessed.
I have to go - my internet is down and I'm using a computer at my parents' house.
I will keep you in my prayers.
Love, Nicola
Life isn't about finding yourself; it's about creating yourself My thread: Trusting God's Plan
Thanks for stopping in. Nic, Thank you for keeping me in your prayers. I really believe in it and appreciate it.
RCR, I left as he was cheating on me. This women is one of many ow. Sorry if it seems selfish, but I really am to angry to care about being, "Fair," to her. She stole so much from me and caused me incredible pain. She made the choice to be a rebound. She also made the choice to have an open relationship with him, so that is the level of commitment she went into it with and that is what she got.
Regardless I need to put my energy in me and my life and not care at all about them, what they do or do not have and the logistics of it. I am working on protecting my future.
"It sounds like he feels stuck and since he's stuck he might as well not try to move...hence he doesn't know how he feels, no lving together, no marriage....none of that yet."
- You are so wise with your analyzations on this site. Thank you for helping so many on this site understand what might be going on. You have a real gift for that.
"Just keep living your life as it is meant to be lived and joy will always be at your side."
