If your 2 wives were to wrestle, which one do you think would win? I actually have a serious reason for asking this question.
If my exBF and my H were to wrestle my exBF would win, hands down. And I'm not talking about it being over me or anything just a straight fight for whatever reason. What does that mean?
And what if your 2BX and NG were to fight? Where's your money?
Fran
if we can be sufficient to ourselves, we need fear no entangling webs Erica Jong
I agree that although this BB is wonderful, it can encourage one to take on more than their fair share of responsibility for the problems in their R's.
You can say that again, sister. I remember once in MC where I declared that I was tired of playing the "relationship cop" and was ready to just let it sit and fester . . . for awhile.
Originally Posted By: lil
Type 6 is an organization man who lives by the rules.
I agree that although this BB is wonderful, it can encourage one to take on more than their fair share of responsibility for the problems in their R's.
It struck me when I read that "He's Just Not That Into You" dating book that LP recommended that because the raison d'etre of this BB is maintaining marriage or LTR's we constantly advise each other to do things that are the opposite of the advice given in that book. Instead of just moving on emotionally when faced with obviously bad behavior we try to figure out what we did that would make our SO's behave badly and then fix it. Maybe what I'm really trying to say is that the only solution really is to "move on emotionally" but not necessarily divorce. All I know is that I had had that book when I was dating my 2bx, I never would have married him. I think "moving on emotionally" or really "truly being willing to leave if things don't improve" is the equivalent of hitting the reset button on a relationship. It's like you're back to Date #1 and both you and your SO have the opportunity to "do it right" but it's idiotic to keep pushing that reset button over and over if things never change.
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And what if your 2BX and NG were to fight? Where's your money?
Well, practically speaking, 2bx although skinny had some decent sinewy biceps and shoulders so he could definitely pin me but NG has huge rock-like biceps and can easily pin me with one hand (in fact his arm is so heavy I actually have to sort of do a chest-press to get out from under it if he's sleeping) so NG would win. OTOH, 2bx can be rather vicious and I've never even seen NG seem even a little angry but he once had a male stalker ( he is semi-famous) and he told me that when he called the cops he said "If you want to prevent a homicide, come get this man away from my home." so ....
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