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08-20-07

My children were over at their father's this past weekend. They informed me that he stated that he "would never ever want me back in his life and that I was the worst thing that ever happened to him". Wow!

He also is trying to slowing introduce OW in their lives by talking incessantly about her day and night. My children have informed him that they are not at all interested in being around her.

He also told my children that I am dating (5) different guys - (he is very delusional). I can barely take care of me and my (3) children let alone (5) other men. I tell you I just don't know were these guys are coming from...

Oh Goal

I am so sorry honey.

I HATE THAT HE SPOKE TO THE CHILDREN, LIKE THAT.

you hold your head up high.

You know what you have and have not done.

These OW's will be introduced to our children, it is so hard.

But, please trust your mothering.

Trust that you will never be replaced, and that they are your children and will love you with no condition.

I feel your pain, it hurt me just to read it.

He is a miserable SOB.

(((((((((((((GOAL)))))))))))))))))

You are being the most wonderful person ever !

Let him cope with his own sh*t !

Like you say, keep praying and trust God with this ! xxx

(((Goal)))

Unfortunately they will say what they have to in order to justify their behaviour.

They are so dilusional. It really makes me wonder how this really happens.

They become someone we never imagined they could ever become.

If your children don't want anything to do with OW, their R with him will suffer. It will have an impact on their R.

Let God take care of him.

God has much work to do.

Your kids know the truth and your actions will speak louder than words.

I admire you for being able to stay so focused and in control.

Hugs,
ISLH

BIG UPDATE

I MET WITH THE LAWYER TODAY TO COME TO A SETTLEMENT WITH H. WE DREW UP A VERY FAIR PROPOSAL. TRIAL IS SCHEDULED FOR TOMORROW AND LAWYERS WANTED TO SETTLE CASE SO TRIAL WOULD NOT BE NECESSARY. H WOULD NOT SIGN THE SETTLEMENT. HE WOULD NOT GIVE ANY REASONS WHY. HE JUST COULD NOT SIGN.

SO IN THE MEAN TIME MY LAWYER CALLS THE COURT TO SEE IF THE TRIAL IS STILL ON TOMORROW DUE TO H NOT BEING ABLE TO SIGN. THE TRIAL IT SO HAPPENS GOT POST-PONED DUE TO SOME OTHER TRIAL GOING ON. OMG OMG OMG

I JUST BOUGHT MYSELF 3 MORE MONTHS BECAUSE THE NEXT TRIAL DATE IS SCHEDULED FOR NOVEMBER 20, 2007. ONE DAY BEFORE OUR 20TH WEDDING ANNIVERSARY.

GOD HAS HIS HANDS ON THIS..........

God is good, congratulations goal.

No news from H since his decision not to sign. Lots of spewing to the kids about how unfair divorce is. (maybe you should have thought about that before you unzipped your pants).

H making me look like a money hungry greed ***** to family and friends.

I keep repeating to myself: "If god is for us, who can be against us".

Luv to all of my fellow survivors...

Journaling:

H appears to have more than one OW now. At least that is what the kids think. So his soulmate, was not his soul mate? So he was not that happy with his secretary?

These guys are crazy. I continue to remain dark. It gets easier and easier every month.

H told his lawyer it is driving him crazy that I will not see him or speak with him.

H in chicago with OW over the weekend. It is my father's birthday weekend. He always seems to leave town on birthdays, anniversaries, etc...

H continues to not sign divorce papers. I continue to give him space and go dark.