My mother stopped by his daycare and was going to see how he was doing, the girls there said he just sits and mops around, doesn't want to interact. This is very unlike him, I have not met a more hyper child and we get comments on it all the time.
Well she checked on him and sure enough he was just sitting there by himself not playing, won't talk. He spent a week in a daycare about a year ago and it didn't go well, but it was screaming and crying. He tells me at night that he likes school when I ask. Is this normal behavior for a 2.5 year old starting day care?
I've now got my mother calling me and she is a total wreck, her mother calling doing the same, my S is shuting down and I'm just drained. I hope W's need are being meet.
A I am SO sorry to hear your little boy is not being himself. Just love him. Your R with him is your relationship w/ him. Period, full stop. Be with him as much as you can and tell him you love him. I dont think he knows as much as you think at 2.5 unless there is a lot of anger / yelling going on around him which at that age is probably all he can discern in terms of things not going well between you and your W.
Me: 46 Wife: 39 D: 13 S: 11, 9, 7 Bomb 3.2.07, Sep Same Day, D papers 11.1.07 Current Status - Wants to take me through Discovery, I will go to prison first.
How long has he been at daycare? Can't tell if he's new there or has been there for a while. If he's new, he might just be a little nervous being around so many other kids for the first time.
Has he been acting differently at home? You've not mentioned changes before.
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Me: 36 W: 35 2 D: 9 and 5 T: 16 years M: 12 10/4/06: Bomb 10/5/06: Ended A 4/22/07: ILYBNILWY
Second week, no problems last week. He was actually very excited to go back after the first day, but he doesn't say much now. I'm hoping it is just some change jitters, not some permanent issue. Just Frustrating, I know I have to try and hang on but I think it is making everyones life hell. D isn't the answer either, but it sure looks appealing right now.
I'd give it time with the change for daycare before jumping to conclusions about the R affecting him there. I'm sure you have, but explain to the folks there what's going on so that they can keep you notified.
I know that our girls loved the daycare they were at. However, our oldest, who is tiny, but has a huge voice, cried EVERY day for about a year when we dropped her off. Wailing, gnashing of teeth. After we would leave, she'd be fine. Kids are funny, don't blame yourself or the W for this before you're sure that's the cause of his behavior -- someone may have just hit him with a plastic dinosaur or something
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My latest
Me: 36 W: 35 2 D: 9 and 5 T: 16 years M: 12 10/4/06: Bomb 10/5/06: Ended A 4/22/07: ILYBNILWY
Me: 46 Wife: 39 D: 13 S: 11, 9, 7 Bomb 3.2.07, Sep Same Day, D papers 11.1.07 Current Status - Wants to take me through Discovery, I will go to prison first.
well i pick s up from my mom, she talked to the girls at the daycare and they said he is a great boy but is having a hard time. he is starting to throw temper tantrums all the time and just locks up and doesn't want to talk or do anything. i fell horible feeding mc'donalds but that is the only thing right now that seems to get him excited and going.
after dinner he was good, but any questions about "school" and he traps right up. not good. if i approach w, she will claim manipulation on my part. honestly, i really don't care what she thinks, he means to much, and she is done.
w did come by for the pick up tonight, was pretty distant. stayed and at some quick food. asked how her day was and got a little chit chat. no d talk tonight, but she did talk about me getting roommates again. told her not to worry about it, i would take care of the house.
i'm pretty sure i got the job, it most likely will be a paycut, but the up side it defiently worth it. just be a couple of years of hell until then. unfortunetly it will probably force a decision on the house and that will be the nail in the coffin for w. but i have to do what is good for me, and if she were to come home, it would be great for the family in a couple of years. so the offer will come at the end of the week and i'll most likely take it.
Congrats on the job. Sorry about the daycare stuff. Dont have any real advice on that. This stuff is hard on kids. Had to chuckle on the McD's comment....... I am so sick of that place. Although sometimes some of the other mothers arent too bad to look at. I am there at least once a week.
Atlas we seem to be in the same place about our house issues. I did a budget today, I could probably squeek by and keep mine, but that budget is so paper thin, any little thing will kill me. I dont want to live like that.....
You seem like a great guy. Only wish that you lived closer, so we could maybe do some fishing or bowling or drinking lol. Take care bud!
man fishing killed my marriage, fly and rod. just one of the complaints. can't get enought of that, trout, bass and some good ocean fishing when i am near it. i love to bowl, but i suck and the drinking thing, well i'm working on that. not a great drinker, not an angry drunk, more of the lets call everyone up and get them over here for the party type.
Sounds like more of the same from your W. Push, pull, push, pull, push, pull, etc. I'm surprise you haven't complained about any whiplash! Seriously though, I just don't know what to say about your W anymore. She is so confused it drives me nuts just reading about it . I think it might be time for you to work on detaching more and not being there for her ALL of the time. Be there for your kid and when it serves his best interest, but when she needs to talk and for you to listen, it might be good for you to not be quite as available. GAL and be a little more mysterious (but not in a negative way). Just act content and be busy with things that YOU want to do. Take stock and check for cheese -- give it at least a few weeks, and decide whether or not it has had any positive effects and brought you closer to your goal(s).
Great on the job sitch! Hope you get it if that's something that will truly make you happy in the long run. We must all strive to have a career that we enjoy being involved in!
As far as the daycare issues with S goes, I too wouldn't worry too much. Kids all exhibit different behaviors at different stages of their personal development and in social settings. It sounds like this is really new for him, and the fact that he is young says something too. Give him time, but continue monitoring his behavior there via his teacher(s). Be there to love him and to be the best dad you can be. Do this and he will be fine. Give him time, dad.
. I think it might be time for you to work on detaching more and not being there for her ALL of the time. Be there for your kid and when it serves his best interest, but when she needs to talk and for you to listen, it might be good for you to not be quite as available. GAL and be a little more mysterious (but not in a negative way). Just act content and be busy with things that YOU want to do. Take stock and check for cheese -- give it at least a few weeks, and decide whether or not it has had any positive effects and brought you closer to your goal(s).