I'm numb. I had stopped posting because I didn't even know where I belonged anymore. Infidelity - check. Separation - check. Surviving - check. Divorced - check.
Oh, KS ( I wish I knew your name ), I'm so sorry. I'll read your thread.
Talk to me anytime. I know you've got many supporters on these boards, so you probably don't need me, really, but you can lean on me as much as you need to.
If you want my email or phone #, just ask.
M45, W45,S15, D10, Bomb 10/3/06, Moved back in 11/6/06, finally ILY 9/07 last thread
wow, I just read COGs post on your thread. Good stuff. What I need to hear too. Maybe we'll come through this together, but I hope it doesn't take 4 or 5 (or more?) years.
I know the numb feeling. I hate the limbo. One day at a time. I allow myself to be sad, but I'm carefull to watch for self pity. It's OK, and healthy to be sad, right?
Keep doing for you and your daughter.
Even if I don't post, I think of you and am always wishing the best for you.
M45, W45,S15, D10, Bomb 10/3/06, Moved back in 11/6/06, finally ILY 9/07 last thread
Bump back atchya. Things could be worse. How are you doing? My wife and I talk almost daily on the phone. We are getting comfortable, but not addressing any issues. Kids are doing well. LIfe is fun. How about you?
M45, W45,S15, D10, Bomb 10/3/06, Moved back in 11/6/06, finally ILY 9/07 last thread
tonight, I had my son call my W to tell her how excited he was about the jazz combo he is in this year. She said she was worried about losing contact with son, since she lives in another state with my daughter (see above for background), and I had said I would try to help them stay connected, as she would help me stay connected to my d.
Afte son and W talked, I talked a bit to my W. I joked about how bad the crab cakes i cooked were (she's a great cook and we miss her cooking, although I'm pretty good and getting better. I actually started her cooking) and asked about her day. She wanted to know when my son's jazz concert would be, so we looked it up quickly on line. It turns out it's the same time she has a conference. She wants me in her state to take care of d while she is at the conference, meaning I'll miss my son's concert.
these things happen, but she said something like "oh well, I guess there's nothing we can do about it" and I immediately thought "you could come back home and reunite our family" and I laughed. She asked what I was laughing about, but I politely refused to tell her.
And that, dear reader, is what I'm angry about. I shouldn't have to miss my d's concerts, plays, etc, and my son should have his mother at his concerts, plays, sporting events, etc. She did this, my W did this. She separated us and split up the kids for her selfish reasons. (and I let it happen )
my anger has dissapated fast. I know my role in this. It's not fair, doesn't feel fair.
the clincher, perhaps, is after talking to my W, I talked to my D to say good night and see how her day was, etc. She didn't feel like talking, just I love you dad, got to go. I miss her. I miss her a lot.
I don't blame her at all. I just hope we don't grow apart.
M45, W45,S15, D10, Bomb 10/3/06, Moved back in 11/6/06, finally ILY 9/07 last thread
And I let it happen ========= you had to, she has to make her own decisions, it's on her not on you that she divided the family.
No, it's never fair. Why can't you just tell her she has to take care of it? she is the one who left, why would you have to pick up her mess? I dont' see one reason why you'd have to miss your son's concert, have her fly D to you if she can't take care of her, she needs to do the leg work, not you
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
)