phone isnt working, tell d11 i will call in morning. tell her goodnight.
This isnt my wife! My wife wouldnt let anything come between her and her kids. My wife would have bought a phone card and called from a payphone, even if it is just to say goodnight. This isnt my wife!
Me 37 W 37 D21 D17 D12 S8 grandparents 7/07 boy Married 16 yrs last June 07 Bomb dropped 4/07
"Do what you feel in your heart to be right-for you'll be criticized anyway. You'll be damned if you do, and damned if you don't", Eleanor Roosevelt
That was Saffie in the bikini. Miss her this weekend. Those are great photos of you and the kids. Jeremiah is a beauty. You must be going crazy without hearing from her. Keep hanging in there.
(((((LS)))) These pics brought tears to my eyes. It's so sad that a family is being torn apart because of two people's actions. Seeing these pics just make it more real.
My H too has put his children on the backburner during this time. Something I never thought I would witness. He used to always say there are two things you don't mess with...My family and my money. How times change. He messed with his family worse than anyone else ever has.
Yoyo
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
You seem to be able to talk sense into me. We are kind of in the same sitch. We both love our kids more than anything. BUT.... How long can we go on living like this? I am seriously thinking about filling for some sort of legal separation. We could still live like ROOM MATES. But being legally separated I could start getting my own life back. I feel I am kind of being selfish. Sort of putting my sun on the side line but I think I could be a better Dad if I was living a complete life. I know inside I need to give it longer. My sitch is not as bad as most here but. I am not happy. I could be just reacting to everything that has happened to me in the last 2 weeks. Remind me again buddy why I need to go on.
Husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
--First-- I would like to share my gal day: Last night i wasnt tired stayed up till 2:00 then didnt fall asleep till 3:00? planned a fargo day with d16 and d11. Left home at 9:00, 9:05 w/calls can i talk to d11, (seemed pissed at me) I said yes and gave her the phone. Hasnt called this evening. I took them rock climbing, grilled hot dogs in park, threw frisbe, played hackey, and took them on a long bike ride on the cool trails. We were wore out after ride. Came home made supper, mowed lawn, cleaned, took out garbage, started washing clothes... Im trying to keep busy but it doesnt stop those heart stopping feelings from creeping in throughout the day. Overall it was a great day with the kids.
--Second-- Husband, I think evryone has there own reasons for going on. mine are (in no particular order) MY WIFE - we have a history, its not all good and great but i know her and love her, i know we can make each other happy just need some work to get it right (both of us). MY KIDS - they are absolutely awsome, d20 was a handful and i think i lost hair out of that deal but i wouldnt give it up for anything, d16 is strait A student and totaly responsible, d11 is kind of shy at first but comes out of it she is the first to get into sports, s7 is spitting image of me, (I guess I should be scared) right now he is very inventive and creative also a good drawer for his age. My Desire To Be Happy / Have a Great Life - Although it is on hold right know I know it is possible. I watched a movie on HBO last night The Last Kiss, one part that stood out was, fil(counselor) of h(who cheated) told him 'you cant fail if you dont give up', that saying is sticking with me. One more thing in the movie was "What you feel only matters to you, Its what you do to the people you say you love, thats what matters, thats the only thing that counts.
--Third-- I have questions. I dont want to push her away. I did enough of that already. I planned on sleeping in our room instead of spare room when she returns and telling her she is welcome to sleep on her side of the bed as long as she stays on her side. I do want my nuts back but dont want to push her away. The spare room is a futon and it sucks. I feel I cant go to bed till d11 goes to bed first then sneek in spare room. Stay in our room or no confrontation and go back in spare room??? Leaning tward our room. Any input? How to act on her return. She may have made a decision to persue om. Maybe me. Do I let her bring this up to me or should I ask? I am terified. If its not me, Should I tell her she needs to file if she wishes?
Loved the photos - it shows exactly what you are DBing for.
I imagine the tension is building up now to your W returning. Just remember that what she has been experiencing whilst she was away is not real life; it's a fantasy. I am not totally sure of your complete sitch - how long has A been happening? It must be hard to see your W getting a kick out of someone else and seeing the thrills she is getting from a new R. I was lucky enough that my H had gone beyond that before I found out about his A so I didn't have to witness it but I can remember feeling slightly jealous that he had had that excitement - and that's even when I have never even thought or wanted to be with anyone else!!
Just remember that she would have to be giving up SOoooooooo much if she chose OM and when it gets to the crunch often that brings them back to their senses.
Please just try and be nonchalant and normal when she returns. She will probably be walking in feeling pretty nervous aswell.
Saffie ps it was me in the bikini!
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
