So good to hear from you. I was sorry to read about all of your tribulations and what your family's been going through. If nothing else, your post will be a great example to others here of grace under pressure. Praying this year will be better for you.
You said that "When we exchange vows, we are really promising to help the other get to heaven. How I wish I had lived my marriage that way years ago." So very true. I didn't "get" that at the time either.
Good luck, Lib. Hoping you'll continue to pop in at least now and then, but if not, I wish you the best.
I have never posted to you but wanted thank you for the lovely post. I am sorry for your tribulation but am so glad that you know the Lord is there to help you.
I thank you and God for an example of someone who continues to stand despite adversity. I have been standing for my marriage for 3 years, although, not giving it the Lord until a few months ago. Unfortunatley, my marriage come to a legal end very soon until God reaches my H before that happens. As far as I am concerned, I will still stand as long as it takes.
Thanks again for your lovely post.
Everything happens for a reason, maybe Dad needs to find that it isn't better out there, he needs to realize how good he had it here. Maybe he will find God and that is the most important thing when he finds Him he will know he is supposed to come home.
Just wanted to say hello to everyone here and to offer some encouragement.
Try to remember that God loves you and knows your suffering. He is with us when we are the farthest away from Him.
I had sinus surgery a couple of weeks ago and my husband didn't call until the next day. He simply can't deal with reality (he is alcoholic and deeply immersed in sin and avoidance). It hurt so much that he didn't care, until I made myself think of how empty his life is.
Doing things so wrong day in and day out doesn't make for a very peaceful life - even for those who have sociopathic tendencies. Abandoning your family - in our case not just me but our adult sons and grandchildren is unnatural. Some part of him must hurt all the time.
For all of you who are in misery at the rejection of your beloved spouse and having to watch and feel the pain of your children at the hands of their father (parent) - pray and keep active. When it gets too bad, know it will pass by until the next time. God always rescues us when we feel ready to let go.
We are often considered too far into this to be still mourning what our spouses have done - whether it's a few months or six years as with me. But we know what our hearts are going through and just have to brave it out in front of most people. If you can find a safe person to listen, it helps so much. I have a sister like that.
Plus we do heal and - not move on (dislike that term) but move with life. We can find joy and peace by following what God guides us towards - by obeying His will for us.
It's very, very tough to do the right thing by everyone...your family, society and yourself. But you can do it if I can - not perfectly but with great effort and by offering up your suffering to the Lord.
God bless each and every one of you. I miss being here.
Lib HUGE HUGE ((((((hugs)))))) I am so glad you posted. Hope you are feeling better after your surgery and are recovering well. Honey I do think your Husband cares, but it would have caused him too much pain to see you in a hospital. Just keep praying for him, it is all in Gods hands.
Have a blessed week,
(((Faith)))
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
I am so happy to hear from you. How did your surgery go? You sound so much at peace. Your are right that your h could not deal with the reality of you in the hospital. It probably scared him too much. He dealt with it the only way he knows how right now.
