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Thank you Dom R. I am in a bad spot and have turned here again. H said he wants an "in house" separation. I don't know how much longer I can ride the rollercoaster. I am so depressed. I am either angry or sad. No in between hardly. Took the kids camping this weekend - alone. Called on the way home to be sure I was going right. ON the third call I was told that I was a pain in the ass, so I hung up. I have barely spoken to him since. I decided that if he doesn't like what I have to say I will say nothing. That includes asking the kids to do anything. He thinks I should ask them nicely--basically pleed with them to do the chores and things they should be doing. They won't do it whether I am nice or not and I get no respect from anyone in the house. S11 thinks acting like H is cool. He now sides with him and ridicules me at any chance. And doesn't listen to me. So I have basically just given up on that. For now anyway. I have no strength left to fight. I am ready to tell H to move out. That will take all the strength I can muster....S11 reports everything I say and do to him. I just can't take it anymore. I have stopped doing anything for H will will please some people. I can't work, can't sleep. I can't remember anything. Forgot to pick something up last night. I have always been a very organized person but that is all going straight to hell. My mind is so occupied I can remember nothing now. Monday is our 19th wedding anniversary. I may just lose it. I am not going to say anything, just go to work as usual an act like it is any other day. But it won't be. Even my support group is sick of my sitch. Only 2 people showed up last week besides myself. I am not going this week. I would go back to a therapist if I could afford. Work only allows 3 free visits a year and I have had them already. So basically I have nothng and no one to talk to. My parents died 15 yrs ago so I have no family. My mom was divorced once, I could so use her support right now.

Well, that's it. He is moving out today. Don't know how he went from an in home separation to his father's house, but he did. Says he is telling the kids tonite. Said we are not compatable and never were. Yeah, Monday is our 19 yr wedding anniv. Last year he dropped the bomb the day after, this year it is the day before. Someone in my group said he is trying to avoid it. So tonite starts the first day of the rest of my life. Yipee. A life I don't want.

He just called me at work to tell me he was telling the kids when he got home. SO I have no idea what I will be walking into. I told him his choice of timing is impecable. Our 19th anniv today. He said he didn't forget what today was but that it isn't very happy under the circumstances. Ya think????


So he is telling my kids who worship him that he cannot get along with me. So as if they weren't already they are going to blame me for driving him out which is NOT true. He said he is not going to answer any divorce questions, just give them an i don't know.

I told him not to expect me to be happy. He says he won't be happy leaving. I said that was pretty stupid then. He said why should he stay, just to make the 3 of us happy. I said the difference is that he is making a choice, we aren't.

I told him he was cruel to call me at work and upset me. I basically hung up on him and said do what you want, I don't have a choice anyway. If I drank I'd be a mess today.

He moved out last night.