Me: 46 Wife: 39 D: 13 S: 11, 9, 7 Bomb 3.2.07, Sep Same Day, D papers 11.1.07 Current Status - Wants to take me through Discovery, I will go to prison first.
This sounds like piecing to me. Have you been on that forum? Are you checking out the resources on that? You need to. I've heard piecing is as hard as waiting while they decide. All kinds of starts and stops. PATIENCE.
Nomo
M 39 W 39 M'd 10 yrs; T 14 yrs S7 D4 Bomb 5-8-05 W not working on M 1-22-07; EA 2-22 DB 4-10 S 6-11 No more C Link
Thanks for the encouragement. I need to get over to the piecing posts and start reading. I think I'll be moving over that way IF i get past this weekend without it going horribly. Little scared because her family, the few that don't want to see our m work, and who are justified as well, I think, will be in town. I'm sure there will be some deep talks between W and them.
I know she cares and its in her, she is talking about it. I just am biting my tongue worse then before. At least before it was "your an F$(%*$(*!" Now, its "I want this, but I'm too scared." So, it's me trying to control, I want to hold her and tell her it is going to be alright, but I can't. She will have to come to that realization herself. I can only wait and keep up my DB'ing efforts.
Just stay at your picnic Atlas, even if she retreats to the castle occassionally. Stay at the picnic until the change of heart gets more cemented. Keep it simple.
M 39 W 39 M'd 10 yrs; T 14 yrs S7 D4 Bomb 5-8-05 W not working on M 1-22-07; EA 2-22 DB 4-10 S 6-11 No more C Link
Little scared because her family, the few that don't want to see our m work, and who are justified as well, I think, will be in town.
The fact that you've come to this realization means that ending the M is no longer justified.
One thing just hit me, I can't remember if you have or not, but have you told her that you're a little scared/nervous/frightened about where things are going? Also, a little reassurance might not be a bad thing at this point. She's wanting to come back, telling her that it's going to take time, I'm scared a little too, but I think we can work together to a tremendous lifelong love affair might not be a bad thing. But, what the hell do I know, I'm not in piecing -- yet.
Also, don't prejudge the weekend. It seems that you're setting yourself up for a miserable time. I think you've got a good idea to talk to the BIL. Sounds like it's going to be nerve-wracking, but, enjoy what you can.
BD
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Me: 36 W: 35 2 D: 9 and 5 T: 16 years M: 12 10/4/06: Bomb 10/5/06: Ended A 4/22/07: ILYBNILWY
Scream, shout and general vent.......here. Then you can go out there, DB to your hearts content and stick a finger up (metaphorically speaking) at all the doubters. Your thread is giving me hope and I need that at the moment.
Stick to your principles and walk tall.
P.S. It takes 24 muscles to frown, but only 2 to smack someone in the face (lol).
-- yet.