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Did you ever read my first thread?

Just went back and read it. I don't think I'd read it before. Course I've read quiet a lot since on here....

Damn your quick, it is around pages 8-10 where most of my story comes out.

Well I skimmed some of it.

Though I gotta say your W and my H sound alike. Last time we seperated was for 2 months. He told me I needed to get his name off the bills, close our joint checking account, and he was off to see a lawyer. Well none of that happened and he came home after 2 months. This time none of that has been mentioned. Nice but I'm confused. If he's done then why isn't any of this happening. Is he waiting for me to get on the same page as him or is he simply confused. You know? And your W sounds like she was saying all the same things. Oh and all of his stuff is still here. He hasn't offered to take anything other then some clothes. Yet I hear things like I don't trust you, I can't open up like that again, I don't see how we can ever be together again.. Confusing.

You must of missed the crappy pages.

Um I read the first page and then read page 8 a little of 9.

I just want to shake my H. Cause I know he sees our problems as HUGE. And they really aren't compared to what I've read or heard from other people. I'm not diminshing how he feels but us not being there for each other can be resolved a lot easier then other problems.

That part is what gets me, all the stuff comes out, and we can now start to fix me/us, and that is when she bales. So she stands for us for 10 years, then give up when all that crap happened.

Going since sunday since she said she filed, never found it listed at the courts so who knows. Over all think I have done extremely well leaving her alone except where the little one was involved. Been in a pretty good mood just letting it ride this week, well today just kind of hit me with being lonely and missing her. They went out of town for the weekend so I have a few more days to go. I keep thinking I am not normal in how this is progressing, does what she does and seem normal compared to the rest of the WAS's?

Well maybe she didn't actually file.

I think we all feel like we aren't normal. Then you have to ask yourself what exactly is normal? Nothing feels normal about this.

I don't really know if she did or didn't, nothing I could do about it either way. Just thought a lot today. I will continue with what ever DB'ing I can, but I cannot fool myself thinking I can just let go and not care like I have been all week. I do care which way this ends up. Just don't know how to handle it at times. I never knew telling yourself everyday that it is okay and everything is fine could be so taxing.