The OW in my sitch lives across the street. And is older. And has 4 kids. And is a skank. Many people have said, HER?! A few have said that they could have seen a 22-year-old lanky girl, not this (like that is supposed to make me feel better?)
I guess one of the problems was I didn't feel threatened by her early enough.
Just got back from picking up D. H had a headache, but had a sleeveless shirt on, and jeans with a rip in the hip...damn, I wish he would break out in hives or something, so I'd stop thinking about him. It was terrible to have him in the house and not be able to touch him. This is not too much better.
But we got ice cream on the way home :0) and that helped pull me up before I came all the way down.
Irish, I am down 30 lbs and 5--6 pants sizes. Still losing, and look really good. I spent 45 minutes getting ready for the 3 minute interaction with H tonight, and I look better than I have in years. But its routine again, so if he doesn't come to appreciate it, someone will.
Yeah I can imagine how difficult it must be to actually know these women.
Although instinctively to most guys their wives are 'vulnerable' and we must defend their honor. So when another man enters the territory voluntarily or involuntarily...well you watch Discovery Channel right? I'm like the damn male leemar who's wife hasn't put out in a year so if anyone enters my territory the furry gloves come off.
My floors are looking spanking clean now...pun intended LOL
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Me: 32|W: 34|D: 3yo 1st bomb: Feb 2006 (left one day, came back a week later) 2nd bomb: Aug 2006 (moved out, ILYBNILWY) 3rd bomb: Apr 2007 (filed for divorce) 4th bomb: <her finger on the launch button>
I took our love for granted. My H would NEVER cheat, and who was I to try to control who he was friends with? Couple that with being made to think that I was a crazy, jealous nut job, and you get....this.
SR, see, you'll find someone when you are ready...the fact that you picked male leemur, instead of lion, is awesome. and lol on the pun.
donna, I took a LOT of things for granted with H, too. I would have bet limbs that he wouldn't ever cheat, too, btw. the fact that he did, and what he's done since, is just mind numbing to me. it sounds so cliche in hindsight, doesn't it?
M-41 H-38 M-10 years, T-14 years Bomb-PA 3/19/07 Separated-6/7/07 Piecing/h back home 5/08 S-6 S-4 D-4
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
Sex w/ W was best ever, and though we slacked off the last few months (mostly because I was mentally exhausted), have been reaaallllllllllly missing her touch and affection. Have had a few opportunities arise but I just can't do the one-nighter/fling thing to begin with, let alone when I want our M to work. Even if she has or will get physical with someone, I intend to honor my vows to her and though I have many regrets over things I have did/said in our M, I know that I will have no peace of mind over this period if I give in to those weaknesses. Masturbation is a great temporary stress release though!
Add me to the list of W's who swore their H would never NEVER EVER have an A!!!...I was so dumb founded when I did find out and made him admit it that I spit in his face and kicked his new BMW convertable (with heated seats and surround sound) so dang hard I broke my toe!!!...
NOTE TO OTHERS: Don't wear Birkenstock sandals if you THINK you might kick something besides H's ***'*...which is what I really wanted to do but he was already threatening to call the police on me.
Sex with my STBXW was horrible. It used to be fine when we started dating but then it got worse and worse over the years. Most of the time she wouldn't let me take my time with her, she'd rather just satisfy me and go to sleep. Many times I stayed awake wondering what I did wrong because the biggest issue with her (us) was poor communication. We talked about the whole world except how we're feeling inside.
So why do I want her back so much? I don't know...surely it must be love? I loved being in her company, sharing and building dreams with her, vacationing wit her, coming home to her instead of an empty house.
Me: 32|W: 34|D: 3yo 1st bomb: Feb 2006 (left one day, came back a week later) 2nd bomb: Aug 2006 (moved out, ILYBNILWY) 3rd bomb: Apr 2007 (filed for divorce) 4th bomb: <her finger on the launch button>
Me: 32|W: 34|D: 3yo 1st bomb: Feb 2006 (left one day, came back a week later) 2nd bomb: Aug 2006 (moved out, ILYBNILWY) 3rd bomb: Apr 2007 (filed for divorce) 4th bomb: <her finger on the launch button>
Would it be horrible to have a sex buddy like on Sex and the City? I am separated not dead. I do want to stop DBing but I am probably the only one abiding by these darned rules! I feel like I am still young and attractive and interesting. Having a date might make me feel sexier. My H is so out to left field I kind of feel like I am now just doing this for the kids and not me.
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Me:38 H:39 MLC M:10 R:23 years D6 S3 Bomb: Easter, 2007 "Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day."
Lots of people will give me crap, but the answer (IMO) to your question - is not when you are ready. Not the sex buddy part, but the dating. I wanted my W back (and still do) but after 9 months I started dating because there were no signs she was coming back.
I was careful in my dating not to hurt anyone and was honest about where I was. It made me feel better. I liked female company that wanted to be with me...:) It made me stronger, ,it helped me detach and when W found out I was dating she freaked out. She admited later that she had no right to freak out and that I had ever right to date, but she still went nuts.
Now I hoped nuts would equate with her coming back, but it didn't... well it was still fun to watch her freak and complain about the "2 weeks" of hell I put her through... yeah my love the 2 weeks of hell i put you through...
