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Ugh, just talking to W about financial stuff, visitation...etc.

I know she's at least still physically attracted to me, I was here on the PC looking at my benefits from work, I 've been walking around with my shirt off and just shorts on, and she was looking in the pantry for something to eat. She made this "sound", and I asked what was wrong, and she replied with " I just don't know why NOW your making an effort to take care of yourself, I mean, you're eating good, working out etc... and I just looked at her and said nothing. When I met her I weighed a rock solid 210lbs, and I admit that over the years I let myself go, of course I've never been "Fat" per se, just larger. What I mean is that even when I weigh 275 lbs, I was still solid, not squishy fat, I played defensive end in college so I am familiar with lifting weights and I have excellent muscle memory. It makes me feel good that she's still looking at me. Wait until about 2 more months when she sees me after I've REALLY been working out. I currently weigh in a 215 lbs and have really been working my chest,abs, and arms so much that I now have an 8 pack.lol. Bragging? A little, but i feel good about myself for the first time in a long time.

Great job! Yeah, I'd say there is at least a little doubt/confusion on her part. Keep focusing on you.

Nomo

PS - can you tell me where you played ball? Maybe in a private email at nomopo@hornfans.com?

I played at a Div 2 school Northwest Missourry State University, Didn't graduate though, kind of forgot about the whole going to class thing, regret that to this day. I'm a TexAgs person myself.

So, I call my W this morning on her cell phone with the intention of just leaving her a messege letting he rknow that I got my own cell phone plan and that ours are now seprate and to let her know what I still owe on my boat, and this is at aorund 08:30. Well, she ANSWERS and I'm like "Oh, I was just going to leave you a messege because I didn't want to disturb you at work". She then tells me that she overslept and because she didn't set her alarm clock, to which I replied automatically that I was sorry and she says "that's okay, it's not your fault. This really bothers me, she didn;t go to work last Thursday, or Friday, and now she sleeps until 08:00 on Monday when she has to be at work at 06:45, this isn't like her. What happened to the woman I married? I hope she doesn't screw up and lose her job, I don;t care if they know what's going on with us or not, they will only stand for so much and above all you must protect your job.


By the way, I was very upbeat and polite when talking to her, and I know it's eating her up.

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She sounds like she is having a hard time. Make sure you encourage and not critisize the job sitch. OK?

I haven't mentioned anything regarding her job, I just wish I knew what was going on in her mind. She has always been one of the hardest working people I know, it's one of the things I admire about her, she motivates me to perform well in my job, and now it seems like she just doesn't care.

I can tell you that when I was in the midst of my EA, I actually quit my job. Of course, I blamed it on other things, but now that I look back I know it was b/c of what was going on in my life. It was so unlike me, I would never just walk out on a job like I did. You do things that you can't explain, crazy stuff. My H is doing the same thing now. He misses work quite often, sometimes not even calling in. I had to hit rock bottom to realize what I was doing to my life, I believe my H and your W may have to do the same thing.

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As hard as it is to accept, she is not just as happy as a clam either. SHe is probably as stressed as you are and it is taking its toll. I know you want to know what is going on in her head, we all want that from our WAS, just know her head is probably as confused as it has ever been and that hard working, motivated woman you married is having a hard time dealing with this sitch.

CVA

Yeah, I know you are right, I just hope she doesn't lose her job and jeopardize our childrens well being. I know she is getting some ROTTEN advice from that little b*tch she works with.

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If she is as smart as you say, she wont let the job slide too much and jeopardize anything and that beotch you mention, she will ultimately see through her words of bad advice. But at the end of the day, you cant worry about what other people say to her. You just cant, it will drive you nuts.

CVA