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I just realized looking back... that I never really laid out all of the stuff that lead up to now... so I'll really quickly offer this history:

My W and I have been married for nearly 7 years... We were across the street neighbors in school... and dated twice before becoming really serious. My W has always had a problem with self image and used to have an eating disorder. We also went through several miscarriages... so I know that she's got a lot going on upstairs, and unfortunately she's the type that keeps everything in. Instead of talking about things, she just stewed over them... eventually starting to detach from me. She says that she thinks of me when ever she sees babies or old people (apparently she sees me as a good partner when having kids and as we get older) and she says she can't imagine the holidays apart. She says that she finds me very attractive, but that I didn't meet her sexual needs.

Here's sort of a time line of how everything went down:

4/07: W announces she's getting on birth control (we had been trying for a baby)... and then dropped the D bomb. About a week later I discovered the affair. Phone bills later showed that they had been talking for about a week and a half before she told me she wanted a D.

5/07: W moves out... goes to a friends house. PA begins...
6/07: Signs of hope begin
7/07: W is kicked out of friends house (friend is unhappy about having OM around her kids); W moves back, then moves out (twice); A ends twice, A rekindled twice (When she moves out she starts staying with him)
8/07: W moves back, then moves out (twice more) A ends twice, A rekindled twice