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The other side of the pond - and bed didn't work. I didn't get much sleep - damn that woman! Still, I'm tired but smiling today - even in all the rain.

Max

morgan,

Well, I'm glad I'm making someone smile!

Slept last night at last! Still very tired but the problem today is boredom. Oh well, at least the sun has come out for once.

Max

glad you slept! I hear you about the boredom. I've made a list of things I love to do in the summer...that helps, some, since I could easily see summer getting away from me this year. maybe do something similar?

hopefully tonight will find you sleeping again, and tomorrow will be a bit more exciting. oh, there is always that other thing I have found myself doing...cleaning out the basement. or, in lieu of a basement, going thru the junk drawer or clothes closet. organizing and clearing the junk out of my life seems to feel very cathartic.

good luck!

morgan,

I still need to make that list. I was a bit miffed today as I wanted to go on holiday to Namibia - something completely different - in between changing jobs but there are no flights for the trip I want to do. Arrrgh! So, as usual for me everything else I've looked at is no longer good enough. I'll just have to give it a couple of days.

Anyone else got any tips for great holidays traveling on their own?

I've got a fiar amount of sorting out to do too. Still, although I have all this time I seem to be avoiding it quite well!

Max

I don't, but I sure hope someone chimes in. Have you looked into any tour groups? Where I live, there is a singles club called "events and adventures" where professional singles choose from a host of different events. Hiking, biking, kayaking, seeing plays, traveling to different cities, dancing, cooking concerts, stuff like that. They say they aren't a dating service.
Anyway, maybe in your area there is something similar (not necessarily geared towards ONLY singles).



LOL- I can understand that. These boards are a great diversion!

Agent99,

I seem to have spent most of last night and this evening looking for a tour that will satisfy me. I may have found one (at last - hurray!). In the UK there are lots of companies that specialise in tours, but the timing means most are booked up for last minute travelling. A lot claim to be good for solo travellers. I guess I'm going to find out (assuming this one is still available tomorrow)!

On a completely different note, I was struck by a song I was listening to today, it reminded me of a time when my W and I were in the car, singing away on the way to her fathers house (to the same song). I can't believe that that won't happen again, all that is gone. It seems so wrong.

I still can't make sense of all this. Perhaps that's the point. There is no sense.

Max

Max, hope you find a great place to go. can't wait to hear where you've decided on. a little change of scenery, and adventure or 2, can be very helpful.

music is tough, isn't it? there are certain songs that bring back floods of memories. trying not to let him win on that acct...songs that I love I deserve to continue to love. hard when they are so linked, though, aren't they?

still hoping one day you both will be singing together in the car.

I hope it works out!!



When I was getting the bed ready last night and I was putting his pillows on his side of the bed, I burst into tears thinking about how that was going to be coming to end soon and I might never be touching his pillows again. So, I TOTALLY know what you are talking about.

I saw on mkultra's thread that your friends haven't asked how you are; just offering silly platitudes. It might be because you are a guy. I mean, people expect a woman to spill the beans on how she is feeling emotionally--maybe they expect you to keep it in-but not because of *you*, just because of your sex. Or maybe they can sense that you could be in a fragile state and don't want to make you feel "bad" be bringing up the serious feelings.

You seem quite approachable here on the boards!

Let us know how the trip goes!

I woke up this morning having interrupted a really funny dream. I was having a rant at my W. I was complaining that by leaving she had ended up turning our house into what looked like the contents of a charity shop! (Do you have those in North America?). Clearly my mind is dealing with the issues in its own way. It really made me smile.

I had a bit of a better chat with one old school friend last night who was more supportive and very surprised at the news of the separation too. I guess it could be a guy thing, and also that I generally keep emotionally distant from people (a trust issue). I don't actually feel that fragile now I have minimal contact with her. A clean break is actually quite healthy.

The tough stuff does consist of moments which catch you out, like you and the pillows, and me and music. Still I find music incredibly therapeutic at the moment.

The holiday is sorted by the looks of things! I am off to Turkey for two weeks, traveling around to see the sights. Should be a great break hopefully. Will be resigning from my job today and accepting the new one too. Big changes.

Max