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It's worth a lot, you love your wife unconditionally.

SPent all weekend at my parents house with my kids, had a blast, took my dads boat out for a spin. Had a good friend of mine that I've known since I was 12 come over and hang out and my oldest brother had his kids this weekend so he brought them over too, met his new girlfriend and DO NOT like her, very rude, opinionated and used VERY crude langiage in front of my kids, plus the fact that she's already professing her love for my brother and they've only been dating a week. Basically she's trying to hard.

I made no attempt to contact my wife at all this weekend even though I thought about her on occasion, but not constantly like I thought I would. I knew she was going somewhere out of town this weekend and when I found out that my brother had his kids I put two and two together and figured she was going to San Antonio to see my future ex-sis-in-law, and since my W called me about 30 minutes ago ( I didn't answer, tee hee) and left a messege telling me that she was on her way back from SA ( I don't know why she volunteered that) then asking me how we where doing and when we would be home. I admit that last night after I went to bed that I kind of lost my PMA and I did cry a little, but after praying to God to ease my pain and also to protect my W I felt better, and I admit that HER calling ME made me feel better too.

I think you are handling things really well. I'm glad you had a fun weekend w/ your kids. No worries about being down after you went to bed last night. I think that is normal under these circumstances and we have to let it out when we need to (I had a couple of nights like that this past week too).

Thanks Kat, I did feel better after I let it out and after I prayed, WE (my W and I) have a lot of people praying for us, and my niece who will be a fish at Texas A&M ( I am so proud of her, I'm a HUGE Aggie wannabe) prayed for me over the phone Friday and I was going to ask her to include my W in her prayer, but lo and behold if she didn't do it anyway without me asking her, she is really a sweet girl and she is a child of divorce and has first hand knowledge of what it does to children, she is still going to therapy 10 years after my brothers D.

I think that my W may be showing pursuing behaviour (like asking ME if she could have a hug, calling me) since I told her I was letting her go, she (I hope) may be subconsciously seeking reassurance that I still love her.

I also found myself a VERY nice apartment with a bada%% swimming pool for my kids, it's a gated community and what I really liked about it was the fact that during the day it is very quiet which is important to me since I work shift work and have to sleep during the day sometimes. I am actually kind of excited because although I hate having to move out of my house, the sadness I felt on coming home to a W that said she doesn't love me and the uncertianty of not knowing if she would be coming home at night or not was unbearable.

That makes a lot sense D, and I'm glad you are excited about the new place.

Man, you sound great. Hope there are some bada-bikinis to go with that swimming pool.

I was going to mention the same thing about your W pursuing a little. Beginnings of some baby steps perhaps? In some ways, sounds similar to Atlas, once he really started detachign and moving on from his W, she seems to have started trying to become part of his life again.

Hope that same attitude starts working for me when the W gets back Wed night.

BD

OH, Fish=freshman? Or is that some other strange Aggie tradition like the bonfire, 12th man, and whatever else the heat there causes?

Grew up in southwest Louisiana telling Stupid Aggie jokes. Wish I could remember a few now.

BD

Yeah fish = freshman.lol I really hope these are baby steps, I have detatched, but I don't want to detatch to the point that she thinks I wouldn't consider having her back.

Nomopo, thanks for the cudos, like I said, it is/was really hard for me to come home lately. The apt I am renting is really neat, although it will take some getting used to coming home and being alone, I think it really is for the best.

Your apt sounds really nice, I hope the detaching works for you.