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Oh, I confuse easily. That is the part I have stopped, the emotional part for now. Without cycles I can not get hurt nearly as much. I will wait for the bigger cycles and skip the daily ones.



That I plan to do. I think I know who it is, and yes it is a friend of both of us, well just her now. His divorce is almost final and has three young girls to boot. His wife left him for another guy so he should know better, they would be a match made in misery, but then again I am not really sure it is him.

Yeah too much drama is soooo draining.


Good grief lots of people leaving people for other people... And the kids being in the middle of it all. That's the real shame of it.

That is where you need to get, let the drama go.
If you think about it, only two outcomes can happen,
1st-they wake up and you live happily ever after.
2nd- the go on there merry way and we still become better people.

Everything in between does not really make a difference unless we let it.

I am not a better man Jazz. I have a couple of ways that I have been looking at it, tell me if this does make any sense.

1st, I know for a fact when we got together in the beginning I was her first in everything but kissing and groping. I do have to wonder what I would do if we were separated and I had never been with another women, would I want to find out, I think so in a way.
2nd, we are separated and she was not seeing anyone when this happened, this has happened since the separation, I have to let her do what she has to do for now.
3rd, if that is what it takes for her to go through the motions of realizing she has a great guy in her husband, then so be it.

Now on the other hand if it happened while we were still together and living in the same house, I would throw all 3 of those excuses out and just go file myself.

Today I've pretty much let go. Tomorrow who knows.

I'll take door number one. Still working on coming to terms with door number 2.

Very true.

You skipped #3.

It is so much easier for the last couple days when I just let go of the emotional part of all this. Wish I could explain it.

I hadn't seen that one. I was talking about the they wake up and live happily ever after or we go on and are better people.

I told you I confuse easily.

Well I'd say your a guy but I feel like right now I'm easily confused too. And I'm definitely not a guy.