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Yeah you're right. Tomorrow I will strive to pull myself up. Too late in the night to try now.


Yeah my 2 kids are what I need to be concerned with now.

Thanks Dom, I happen to be off work tomorrow. May just have to go and find out. I believe she would only have two places she could pick so I will try both.
You are probably right and she has, just something that I cannot describe bugging the back of my head that tells me otherwise. Only time will tell.

I am confused on one part, she can file but never serve notice? or am I reading that wrong.

Well just got off the phone with my wife. We had a semi good talk. I know this is a mistake but want some advice. She has agreed and promised to at least read one chapter of any book I give her. I pick the book and chapter. Probably not the smartest thing I could have done but what the heck.
So does anyone have opinions on what book and chapter would have the most impact? I am thinking chapter one of DR.

I think that's a good one. Course maybe you shouldn't listen to me at the moment. I've seen mixed opinions on letting your spouse read DR.

I think Chapter 1 is perfect bud.

So have I. But what do I have to lose now. I think that is a very good chapter, I need to go re-read both first chapters. I do think if she read one of them it could be what stops her in her tracks at least in what is going on.

Yeah well I was going to say at this point can it do more harm but I don't know the answer to that one.

Another good book is Getting Back Together. It actually is a good book in helping the reader use the time during separation to improve themselves. Suffice to say the title can be a bit of a challenge in this situation but it's a good book nonetheless not matter what the outcome.

My favorite chapter out of this book, Chapter Four, "What do you really want." It's all about self discovery. That said, 789 I would recommend this book for you rather than her.

Well I am a self help junkie so I will go get it and read it. Did you have an opinion on one for her? I can always not give one to her she would not say anything, but still thinking this is the time.

No absoulutely do not give her a copy of GBT or ask her to read any of it! She is in no way, shape or form ready for such a book. You on the other hand could greatly benefit from it.

As for asking her to read anything, no I do not recommend it at all. I did this very thing, asking my wife to read chapter one of Divorce Remedy. She said she didn't get it at all or the point of me having her read it. So all it did was piss her off but she was too nice to say or do anything bad. To boot it apply an enormous amount of pressure on my wife which didn't help us at all back in those early days. Shoot at that time she had just learned she couldn't get a divorce straight away. (Thank you NC for having a 1 year and 1 day waiting period!)