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Well obviously I wasn't thinking.

Yeah I get that it's not up to me but I'll be darned if I don't still want a say in it.

I know and agree. I want a say in it also, just finally realized that I don't. So I am setting her free to do as she pleases, if she comes back she does, if not she will regret it. So what can I do but have fun for myself and be the best dad that I can.

One thing I know I can say as time goes on, I know I did everything possible to keep it alive, I will not have any regrets. She won't be able to say that. Not that it means anything, but I can hold my head proudly.

That and my kids are what get me out of bed in the morning now.

Nothing wrong with that NM, you still have yourself and your kids, at this moment nothing else really matters. I am going to be the dad I have never been. Spoiled little brats.

Should clarify that. Not spoiled with gifts and such, spoil them with fun and happiness.

Just call me High Plains Drifter....with kids.

Yeah I realize I've done everything I can (or am still) and I can be proud of that. I just don't want to move on. Still working on that part.

Yeah all we can do is take care of us and our kids and each passing day it'll get a little easier. I hope.

Your not a drifter. You have a life, you just have to find.

On a funny note, maybe you can rent a couple rooms from Jazz in AZ, just mow the lawn for him as payment.

Well then be proud. I don't want to move on either. But at the moment I have no choice. I can cry or live, I prefer living.
I told you I am not giving up, just not going to let it hold me down any longer.



Well since I know I was not a great dad, much less a good one half the time. I know now taking care of my kid is a joy that I have been missing. In that way it helps me a lot.

sorry to hear about your situation.

just to let you know: "filing", and "being served" are technically two very different things. you can technically file for divorce, yet never serve notice.
there is a 6 month minimum waiting for final disolution, from *date of serving the papers*.

being served papers after the initial filing, can take anywhere up to a week, unfortunately. they have to schedule it into a long waiting list of people getting divorced in california

PS: if you really want to know if she filed or not.. go call the courthouse and ask if there has been any divorce filing in the last few days, on, "marriage of [your last name]".

its a matter of public record.
only thing is, you have to get the "right" courthouse, probably. there may be multiple ones in your area. you need to go call your nearest few "superior court"s.


Unfortunately.. i wouldnt doubt that she filed, judging by her behaviour.