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I have a question:
Is it manipulative to get a song ready in my wifes car that she will hear when she starts it?

I put some gas in her car, on a mix cd that was playing the song form The Wedding Singer came on 'I Want To Grow Old With You', that song is truly what I want with my wife. I got it ready so when she turned the car on it would start.

well today is my gal day. I dont plan on telling her where i am going (being vauge). I am going rock climbing, bike riding(more bike paths in this town), and maybe an air museum that i've thought about going to for some time. I also wanted to catch a movie, that one is last on the list.

I think i should tell her im going out. rather than just go. I have already packed the car(her car). didnt plan on leaving for about 2 more hrs. She got out of the shower and said there are 2 things that need to get done today the backyard and dog a bath. At that point i wanted to say have fun i'll be gone for a while, but i didnt.

I have had to beat around the bush making up excuses for her secret to our kids and friends and I think its her turn.

now she has gone outside to backyard to start, she will most likly see my bike in her back seat.

I just reminded myself of 40 Year Old Virgen "I hope you have a big trunk, I'm gonna put my bike in it."

LightSwitch,

1. You don't need to be mysterious about your GAL activities. If you have interests -- great.

2. Do not put a CD on with romantic music. That's chasing.

3. Telling her, "You look Hot" is fine. It's bad boy behavior. She needs to see the dangerous guy in you. You are way too nice.

4. REgarding the finances. If her affair is going to bankrupt you, tell her to make more money ot scal back on the calls.

5. You said...



Dude -- that's being petty. Stop it.

She's noticing that you are pissed off and not taking care of yourself -- as you have guessed, that's not attractive. That's whay you must GAL.

6. Don't read relationship books in front of her. That's sending her a signal that you are consumed with saving the relationship -- it's a form of chasing.

--Theoden

mornin evryone,
I had a great gal day.
When it was time for me to go w was on the phone w/her mom so I wrote a note and handed it to her. "I'm going out. See you later. Bye." I got the quick 5th degree where, when, and my car. I replied out, not sure, and yes. I went to the visitors information in Fargo to get a map of bike paths and get hours of air museum. The museum didnt work out with timesbut here's what i did.

Rock climbing was awsome didnt look like much but once i jot started it was interesting and challenging. By the time I was done my arms and fingers felt like spagetti.

I caught a movie by myself, "I Now Pronounce You Chuck And Larry". It was a good laugh. When I looked around the theater It was all couples accept one girl, I wondered if she was having marrage problems also. Any way good show. Almost forgot w called a couple times during movie and I couldnt answer, not that I would have anyway. Then she texted 'Are you coming home for supper'. I got out of the movie around 6:00 and had left home 11:00 this morning. I debated about calling her, 'Does she call me when shes out? I'm not her maybe I should call.' I didn't call.

I went to the bike path, put on mp3 player, and took off. It was great the paths wound around with the river and through parks. Nothing like the short paths in my town. I'm definatly bringing the kids back some day.
In between songs I heard my phone beep. so I called her back. She was wondering all the usual stuff so I told her everything I did by myself. She told me d20 was coming over and wanted to make up lies about where I was. I said tell her the truth about me rock climbing, movie, and bike riding. Earlyer she told her she didnt know where I was going w/her car and my bike, then I was gone all day and she had to think of something.

Anyway I finished my ride, drove home (45 miles) and d20 and boyfriend where there. Right before i got home I called w and asked if there is anything I should know before i get there, she had left out the movie, so I did the same. Apperently she didnt mention the rock climbing either. they had come over to use our grill for a late supper. I hadn't ate so this was perfect timing. We sat in the kitchen and I talked about my great day. W was in living room with grandson.

Over all I had a great day.

In our earlier talk on the phone w didnt want to tell d20 about our problems and have her all worried with a baby and all. She said when there is no need to tell her right now. Also I told her that I was tired of making up lies when she isn't around to the kids and to friends and family. Now she had to do the same w/me, I felt she got a taste of what I'm feeling. I dont rember what she said to trigger this but I said "Today is my day, Tomarrow is my day, and the rest of my life is my day." Meaning I am going to live life now.

Light,

Good job,

Funny how before going to the movies you would not have notice if it was "couples" or not. I find myself doing that all of the time now.
Sound like a you had good time. I like the part of putting the "lies" back in her side of the court.

Husband

Husband,

I here you are crossdressing, woops crosstyping, good for you. Sounds like you are getting some positive movement tward goals.

Light

Hey,

it takes a real Man to be able to wear a dress and still be a man.
I know which side of the fence I'm on. This weekend has been strange. W said she has lot to do I offered to do luantry "no I'll do it". I offered to due dishes "no I'll do it". I found the gift reciet from the necklace I gave her. I brought it to her and said. "here's the reciet for the necklace it you wantto take it back. He ansere was sonthing like " no that's ok" or something along that line"

Husband
The "twilight zone"

well I guess I have to get ready. Im going fishing today w/s7 and d20's boyfriend. My w is taking d11 and her cousin to Grand Forks to meet inlaws half way. they are staying with them for a week. D20 and baby are going to so she wont be able to talk to om all day. accept when she sneeks off. Oh ya she has been talking to him for a couple hours now. Her mom called on home phone and i took it up to our room knocked and gave her the phone while she was still talking to him.
It just reminds me of how real this really is.

Plan on catching up on threads tonight.

Have a good time fishing, My son Loves it. It's kind of hard thinking about the future in our sitches like everything is on hold, but I am looking around to get another boat. Sold the last one so wife could get a car. (If I only knew)

Husband