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Yeah, it's probably harmless is what you and Jazz convinced me of. And you're probably right. They have some common ground, and they're probably helping each other out.

Here's the bottom line, he's not the problem so don't worry about him. Worry about yourself and your kids. Have fun on the vacation.

I know it is probably nothing at all, just making my stomach turn.
I will get over it, and no I won't confront either one of them about it, because I do realize that would make our situation that much worse.

Have you tried to have fun with two of your own boys, and a nephew, to damn tiring to have fun.
Overall it has been great so far, they are just wearing my down, but I set the bedtime so I will get even with them.

I need a break SO bad! I can't go right now due to the new job, but I will go in Oct or Nov or something.

Well look at it this way, you don't have enough facts to even make a reasonable assumption and even if you did there's nothing you can do about it. So remove it from your mind, I know a hell of a lot harder to do than say. But you have to for your own sanity.

Now another way to look at it, what if having some type of EA/PA is what it's going to take for her to really realize that you are the person she wants. If that's the case then who are you to argue or get upset by it? This is a question that I really have turned over a lot in my head and ultimately I came to the conclusion if that's what it takes I can't get upset by it because my goal would be met too.

Now go have fun with those kids on the beach and quit thinking about all this [censored]!!!

catfan, your words have truth behind them. I have no facts, and even if I did, nothing I could do about it anyhow. It does nothing but drive me crazy if I think about it so it is better to let it go. As for the second paragraph, that is also true. In knowing she has never been with anyone but me, I don't know how I would be if I were her and separated. If it took her having a EA/PA to find her way back to me, I could live with that. That is my goal, to have my family back and whole again, just hope I can have the patients to be able to wait it out, I know I will, just always thinking.
Vacation ends tonight, drive back home tomorrow and get back to the real world.

Well drove 12 straight hours to get home, LA traffic sucks.
The good thing is the wife had dinner for us. Well I am going to catch up on all the other threads and fall asleep.

I just want to say that it probably is nothing, but it makes one's stomach turn because it is still inappropriate to discuss matters with a member of the opposite sex, but we all do it. There is nothing one can do about inappropriate behavior. Friends take sides. That is inappropriate. Spouses also feel out the views of the opposite sex. I have done that but I would never make a connection with my male friends. I just need to hear a man's POV. That is why your (789) insight has been helpful to me. Think of it that way.

Welcome home. Hope you had a great vacation.

Nice to hear she had dinner with you. Mine is still avoiding me. It should be a fun weekend.

Well she just called me, wanted to know my schedule now thru sunday, then asked if my son and I would like to go out to dinner either friday or sunday, she has dinner plans with a girlfriend on saturday night. I told her I would let her know tomorrow morning. She is probably just missing our son, but you never know.