Thanks. I am really glad that I made myself go. The C. was really nice and I felt comfortable with her after a few minutes. Thanks for the support and encouragement.
You're welcome. More often than not, that first step is the toughest one to take. Hang in there. It gets better. It takes a while. But it does get better.
I was so busy today that I didn't have a chance to pick up either of the books and tomorrow we are going to a Cardinals game. Maybe I can stop on the way and buy a book. It would be nice to have something to read during the drive, I feel uncomfortable still and don't have much to say in terms of everyday talk. H. is really trying to be understanding but I am still shell shocked and expecting the other shoe to drop. Sometimes the whole thing seems like a dream. I found out today that the OW has had problems with alcohol in the past and is a real mess. I think H. is relieved that everything is out in the open and he is back home. Now I am an emotional wreck but at least I am dealing with reality instead of wondering and living in limbo like I have been for months. I am praying that everything works out but I have moments of anger that I have a hard time shaking. Thanks IMP for the support and encouragement. Blessings, Violet
Busy beats reading in my opinion. But I just checked with my crack DB team, and if you are going to the game with your H, we agree that you would be better off reading the book away from him. Read that on your own.
But I am very happy that I could help you and am wishing you all the best.
Thanks for the advice, I can see how reading the book in front of him could be a problem so I'll take along something else to read. You have helped me and I do appreciate the responses.Just knowing this board is here is a real comfort.
Well, the drive to the game wasn't too bad although it was so hot it was difficult to enjoy the game. When we got home I found out that the new bike he had in the garage that I thought he purchased for himself was from her. I blew a gasket and kicked him out again. I honestly don't know if I will ever be able to deal with this and get over it. He lied last week when I asked him about where the bike came from and I think it just shows how lying comes so easily to him. I am so mad right now that if my head was x-rayed there would be little creatures with pitchforks running around. Needless to say I didn't buy the books and right now I don't know if I even want to do anything to work at this.Not a good day but nice to know this board is here. Blessings, Violets
Well, violets, no one said it would be easy. I'm sorry but I did have to chuckle at the little creatures with pitchforks thing.
Ok, now, it seems like you need to take things slowly. This happened. You don't have to decide right now what to do. But I would say don't push things. Step back. Reevaluate. And you may want to apologize to your H and explain your feelings.
The little creatures are under control for the moment. I talked to my H. and he is back home. He is trying so hard to make things better but I don't know how to respond. I am still afraid. He sees his C. tomorrow. I bought the D.R. yesterday at bookstore and I believe it will be helpful. Thanks for the encouragement and advice. Violets
He is trying so hard to make things better but I don't know how to respond.
Hi violets. All you can do is be up front about it. I am sure any C could tell him how tough it will be for you. But in the meantime...think...Patience.
