I've been struggling with asking my W to do things. Sadly, I think our efforts to do things together are seen as pressure. While you should try to do things together, the way you ask is critical I think. Instead of "What movie would you like to see this weekend" maybe you say on Thursday/Friday, "I'm thinking of going to a movie tomorrow, would you like to join me." From there, you can play dinner by ear, depending on the show time.
Make sense?
BD
My latest
Me: 36 W: 35 2 D: 9 and 5 T: 16 years M: 12 10/4/06: Bomb 10/5/06: Ended A 4/22/07: ILYBNILWY
It definitely makes sense to approach it that way. I will take your advice. I just feel like we have been co-existing for the last few months. I would like to start reconnecting like a "normal" couple would. I'd like to start and continue doing the things that we would enjoy while we were dating. I feel like we are teetering at the point where things can start to get better, or could take a major turn for the worse. Just trying to make sure I don't do anything that can contribute to the latter. Just seeing her with my niece and nephew this past weekend (they are 3 and 1) makes me realize that this is the woman that I would like to raise a family with. I am committed to making this thing work and will do what I can to make sure that it does.
Hang in there, Stew. Has she talked more about moving out? It sounds like reconnecting with the family has her rethinking things, at least a little.
Like everyone says, patience and baby steps. I also take heart from what Michelle wrote in DR, mistakes in the process can be overcome. That said, don't push. Regardless of how rational a request may sound to us, our wives tend to view it as pressure. Go slow.
Fingers crossed for you that she responds positively.
BD
My latest
Me: 36 W: 35 2 D: 9 and 5 T: 16 years M: 12 10/4/06: Bomb 10/5/06: Ended A 4/22/07: ILYBNILWY
