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Yep. I'm not doing a darn thing. If this is what he wants he'll be the one to take it all the way. He told me when he left he wasn't going to rush to file papers unless I wanted him too. Otherwise he's going to drag his feet. That's ALL that has been said. I don't know what's going to happen but it just feels like even if he's not ready or doesn't trust completely he's letting his guard down some and I'm holdng onto that.

In the meantime I'll come here and vent and whine and moan.

That is one of the top five reasons I come in here. But also for any advice given, support, knowing I am not alone, and to help wherever I might be able too.

I'll take any advice I can get! Support is nice too. That whole an outsider looking in thing. It's hard to be objective in your own sitch.

Be nice to have a handbook on WAS's.

I have a friend, yes female, who just had her husband leave. Well she knows about my wife and all so she has given me her whole story and in hearing it, I am like you have no problem, he is more wishy-washy than any WAS that I have read about in hear. I told her the books and gave her this site, it is up to her to use. The funny thing is she is telling me the same thing, that my wife will be back one day. So yes it is easy to listen and give advice to anyone but yourself, were the negative ones.

They do have one, the problem is every time it goes to printing, the WAS's change what they were thinking so they have to scrap it and start all over again.

So much easier to tell someone else give it time. They're just hurt right now... Then to believe it about your own.

My H always tells me how optimistic I am. If he only heard me in here.

Mine doesn't tell me that, her favorite comment lately is, "don't read anything into this." Her old one was "I don't want to give you false hope." Not sure what the difference is but oh well.

Oh yeah I've heard the don't want to give you false hope more then I care to count. Though I haven't heard it in a few weeks. Another reason why I get the feeling he's breaking. I could be wrong though.

Don't get your hopes up to fast, let him to continue to thaw.

Whats funny is that when she used the "false hope" it was when we were doing nothing, she uses the "don't read anything into it" now that she will give a hug every couple weeks. Over all though I think she has actually backed off from me more than before, but a bit nicer.

Is were I say your a women, tell me what it all means