Thank you for taking the time to post such thoughtful words to me. {{{HUGS}}} it's hard. Very very hard.
The story will only end of the page you decide. I cannot offer much more than that. You can either let it sink you into depression or try what Imp says....join the thriving club.
You are a thriver! The worst is almost over......
thinking of you
Jeanette
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I'm so behind, and am so sorry that you had such an awful day helping H get his stuff together. At the same time, I want to add my Amen to those who said it only ends like this if you want it to. He hasn't filed, doesn't sound like he is going to, and as somebody else said, maybe this is what he must experience to move to a new, better phase. Hang in there if you want to, and focus on your new job and your very own home.
Still, I know how awful it must have felt, and the whole idea of 20+ years ending so ridiculously just hits too close to home for me. Hugs, AH
I do see hopefullness though, it seems he's come to a a next fase in all this, 'depression', apparently this is a hard one and we need to be kind yet leave them be in this one....I wish you strength and a tender heart ! The ow going out of the picture sounds good, even very positive, it means he will deal with his issues on his own...and without you, this is better for when/if he decides to come back home to you one day....
Good luck and I'll be thinking of you xxxx
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus
Hi. I've been wondering how you were. I think H taking his stuff the other day, your D leaving and your getting the let-down from the interview were just too much in one day.
I hope you feel better today. You know, my mother keeps pointing out to me how long my sitch has gone on and I think to myself that she doesn't know about all on here who have gone through it much longer. We never know how long this will interrupt our lives, do we? We didn't invite this mess in and can't seem to get it to leave.
Your H does sound miserable. Mine is too. They don't seem to realize it's inside them to fix it and find the happy place they keep looking for. It's not out there, and it's not being with someone else. Let's hope they realize it and don't waste their whole lives.
Hugs, Sun
"Tell me what you plan to do with your one wild and precious life." Mary Oliver
Hi Sue, Just checking to see how you are today. You were so (understandably) down in your last post, I was just wondering. I hope things are looking a little brighter to you today.
Today is my birthday and I sure did get a surprise when I got home. I had 2 messages on the answering machine and both of them were from H==no less. It has been 2 years since all of this started and in all that time he has not wished me a happy birthday, Merry Christmas or anything of the sort. It really was a shock. At first I was hesitant to delete them from my messages and thought I might keep them and listen to them again, but I didn't. I hit the delete button and sent off to where all old messages go ==where ever that might be. I have come too far to hang onto the messages like they really meant something to anyone but me.
I am so tired of being used by H that I can hardly stand it. He traded in our almost new 5th wheel trlr so he could buy a new park model to live in. I beg your pardon, but I still own that trlr too, so the guy who took it in trade is in for a big shock. The dealer called me the other day and wanted me to send him the title. I asked him straight out what ever possessed him to trade in a trlr that didn't belong to the person trading it and that still had a lein on it. He said he would rather not talk about it. I bet his boss is not happy at all. I have the title and as soon as H brings over the letter saying that it is paid off, I will sign off on the title. I had to pay for it to get the house in my name, but until I look at the letter and see that it says what it is supposed to, the title will remain right where it is and the dealer can just sit there with a trlr that he can't sell.
I have finally found a job that is part time right now but will be full time in the future. It is not exactly what I want but it will do for now. Having to go to work puts me in a different frame of mind than when I sat at home all day.
My life right now is good and what H does is of litte concern to me. I will always love him with all my heart but for now my life is moving forward without him and I am fine. Finally owning the home we shared together has put a different perspective on everything. I am content.
Lissie, you are so funny. I just watched 300 this afternoon with S17. I didn't really notice the hot bods. Now I will have to watch it again.
Happy Birthday to you, Sue!!
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Everything happens for a reason, maybe Dad needs to find that it isn't better out there, he needs to realize how good he had it here. Maybe he will find God and that is the most important thing when he finds Him he will know he is supposed to come home.
