Thanks, Mike. I am supposed to let them know my level of interest before they tell me if they are interested in me. They already told me they were interviewing others (I was the first). I decided to think about it over the weekend to help me process all my thoughts. Today was a frustrating day at work so I am more ready to leave!
The reason I was concerned about 3 out of 5 days being evening hours is D16 could be in a new school, a new home, and then home alone on top of it. She normally needs encouragement to do homework. Of course,taking responsibility for herself is a must. Guess I was also projecting worry since she has a new boyfriend.....wouldn't want him over while I'm at work!
Hey Mattie, You got a 16 year old that has to be reminded about school work also? Hmmm.... I thought I was the only one. If she put as much into her school work as her drill team practice she would be a straight A student. But, I'm still blessed she's a great girl.
I can see your point about not wanting to leave DD at home by herself. They may be "old" enough to stay by theirselves, but teenagers are known to have common sense lapses. I know from being a mother and high school teacher. They still need our guidance. It's a shame that you are having to worry about this. Divorce changes everything. I don't know about you, but I sure took my married life for granted. This single life has lots of hurdles to face, but we can do it.
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
Matilda, I can certainly understand your concerns about leaving you D16 alone 3 evenings per week. I have been told that the only safe time to leave kids home alone is between age 10 and 14. After that they need as much supervision as when they were little.
Is there a chance your H would step up and be there for her on those evenings?
I hate to see you feeling forced to make so many big decisions right now. Having to find a new job and a new place to live and a new school for D16. It just does not seem fair to have to make decisions like that right now. What a silly I am, as if any of this is in any way FAIR or makes any sense!!!!
I just want you to know that I am thinking about you and praying for you.
Me 54 DS19 and DS17 Married 06/1989 Divorced 01/2011
The pressure for a new job is all mine!!! I have been unhappy with my job for many years. It also has lousy pay and lousy benefits. The hours are flexible, though, and I enjoy many of my co-workers which has kept me there. I had planned to quit at the end of the school year, enjoy the summer (ON MY NEW BOAT!), and take my time finding a new job. D just changed my time table!
H is not making me move, but I just can't afford the house we are currently in. We can stay here as long as we need to. D16 and I both thought a new house in a new area would give us both a new lease on life. (She has been unhappy with school, but I know changing schools is not necessarily going to help that!). Actually now that D16 has a new boyfriend she is not as eager to move. However, the new boyfriend makes me feel we should move out of this school district!
H's job involves travel and is away from home 4-5 days a week; never on a consistent schedule. That makes him unavailable to D16 (even if he wanted to be there).
Thanks for your thoughts and prayers. Keep them coming!
