Yeah, I know. It's just that I knew it was wrong and probably would go the way it ended up going before I even allowed anything to *start*. Like I said before, now I see how easy EA's are to get into when feeling vulnerable. Well, he's married too, so as far as I'm concerned, it's not going to go any further than it did and I will make sure he knows this.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
I know what you mean regarding EA's. I am getting a lot of support from my female friends and am always mindful of the risk that an EA may develop.
It is good that you nipped it in the bud. What time is it over there?
AndyV M38 W36 D7 M 13 years Together 17 years W wants D mid Dec 06 (ring off) W wants separation early Jan 07 (she backdated to Oct 06) EA revealed end March 07 (Nov 06 W first meeting with OM) Hallmark moment "I care for you but am no longer in love with you."
About 5:30 a.m. I'm just feeling real guilty right now, and I'm going to have to just let that go. I can't even believe I "went there," seeing how hard I worked to SAVE my M. Don't know what H would do if he found out. Some pretty intense stuff was said to me by that guy last night!! I really didn't say much in the way of that and kept it light from my end.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
Don't feel guilty. What he thinks and writes is up to him. I feel sorry for his W if he is trying to instigate things with others, poor girl.
You have done nothing wrong, go make yourself a nice cuppa.
It is 8:30pm over here. DD is having a sleep over at a friends. W is on a romantic holiday with OM. I am sitting here having a chai tea (hooked on the stuff).
And I am copying all my CD's onto my new IPOD video. I am up to 1600 songs, 4.5 days worth of listening and have about a third of my collection to go.
Again, don't feel guilty, you really didn't do anything wrong.
AndyV M38 W36 D7 M 13 years Together 17 years W wants D mid Dec 06 (ring off) W wants separation early Jan 07 (she backdated to Oct 06) EA revealed end March 07 (Nov 06 W first meeting with OM) Hallmark moment "I care for you but am no longer in love with you."
I sure hope your W sees *the light* while w/ OM this week. Hope she sees a little bit or a lot of the reality of the sitch. I think you may see a lot of changes when she gets back. You're going to have to make sure you are doing your best DB'ing when she gets back so if she's having doubts, she will know which way to go.
I'm gulping down the coffee. That was really stupid of me to stay up so late. I have to drive S1 3 1/2 hrs this p.m. for a dr appt tomorrow a.m. in another town. Staying w/ MIL. Hopefully I won't be too tired.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
Keep your Caffeine intake up and you should have no problems. Maybe take a bag full of choc coated coffee beans for a real buzz.
It will be hard to keep a smile on my face, and pretend that I am not angry and hurting when W gets back, but I am going to make a concerted effort. I hope she had time to think about things.
Hope it all goes well for S1.
AndyV M38 W36 D7 M 13 years Together 17 years W wants D mid Dec 06 (ring off) W wants separation early Jan 07 (she backdated to Oct 06) EA revealed end March 07 (Nov 06 W first meeting with OM) Hallmark moment "I care for you but am no longer in love with you."
Whip out the 2 X 4 I need a knock along side my head. I have this sick feeling in my stomach. I started thinking about this weekend. We are going to OUR time share. The last time My W was there was with the OM. The last time my W was there she was having sex and taking naked pictures with the OM. It may not be the same room but it was our TIME SHARE. It’s all coming back to me. How he took her from me. Don’t know how I am going to handle it and keep up a PMA. Cades, The "friend" of your husband is a vulture, just like the ass holes that took Andy’s and My W away. They have no morals they pray on women that are vulnerable because they are so low they can't get woman any other way. Their wives probably have very low self esteem because of them. DO NOT GO THERE. Come right out and tell this guy that things got carried away and it is not going to happen again or you will tell your husband. DON'T start out a new R with your husband on a lie or secret. PLEASE
Husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
I won't. I know what's it's like to be on the receiving end of the A's, numerous A's, in fact. I just can't do it and I know that. I've never had any desire to cheat on H. In fact, it never even crossed my mind all these years.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
Mate, I understand your pain. You just have to block it out of your mind whilst you are there, and let your W see the wonderful man she loved for so many years.
No ifs or buts, you just have to do it. And enjoy, regardless of what memories you have in regards to those photo's. You have done really well to this point, don't ruin all the hard work buddy.
1838 songs and nearing 6 days of music downloaded.
Man, i didn't know it would take this long
AndyV M38 W36 D7 M 13 years Together 17 years W wants D mid Dec 06 (ring off) W wants separation early Jan 07 (she backdated to Oct 06) EA revealed end March 07 (Nov 06 W first meeting with OM) Hallmark moment "I care for you but am no longer in love with you."
