Walked away from H tonight as he was saying that maybe he'd take the kids to the midnight Harry potter without me and then they'd all act surprised when we went as a family tomorrow night- and I'd never know.
he thinks he's being funny and cute. But in reality he's just being cruel and an a$$.
Yup, walked away. No response. No look back. Walked, got in my car and closed the door as he was still talking out his window. Didn't even say good-bye.
Sox, sometimes men are just built a certain way. Are you wondering yet if your H is simply built as an insensitive dumb as$?
I'm glad you just walked away, I could picture in my mind what you would have said to him had you not and I don't think it would have been pretty........
He'll probably bring it up at a later date- how rude it was to walk away. I'll just remind him at that time how much of an a$$ he was being and that I could have either called him an a$$ or I could have walked away. I chose to walk away. I'll then ask if he would rather I had called him an A$$ in front of the kids.
I need to tell him we need to talk. I'm resigning my lease for another year and I'm beginning the process of looking for a new house for myself.
we went and saw Harty potter. H got the tickets and the seats, and d and I came after gym to meet them.
Very good movie.
Then H took D- since her eye was all red - we though pink eye- H took her to the Dr and it's just a broken blood vessel.
S came with me.
other than that, not much.
Yesterday, H brought me a coffee to work. he had texted me asking if I wanted one, then called and left a message. I didn't get either since I was in a meeting.
D came into school and met me on the playground and told me my coffee was in the office.
at the movie last night, H asked if I got my coffee. I said, yes thanks. I was in a meeting so I didn't get the message.
Yes, but one shining moment every 12 dingy moments doesn't make a relationship.
I went and looked at houses today. Haven't decided if I'm moving, but I'd like to see what is out there. Took D and her friend along. We had fun.
I'm thinking I'll stay in this house one more year while I save up money to buy. I've already started and have a sizable amount, but I'm not in the mood to move right now, so one more year and I'll have a good down payment and maybe some left over for added expenses.
Probably won't be able to buy though. Bad credit. H and I had to do a banckruptcy due to 9-11 fall out. Then we split. In retrospect though, the bankruptcy is becoming a plus. We have no joint credit. Only a joint past. and when 2010 rolls along, that will be wiped out as well. When we split, we split clean. I have no debt- save my car payment, make good money and am never late on any bill. H has only 1 car payment as well, but declared income for the past 3 years and couldn't pay a bill on time if his life depended on it. My credit is better than his at this moment. I'm working on improving mine. Who know what he's doing.
I save nonetheless. Better to keep saving and have a larger amount when my credit is good enough to buy, than have nothing when I can buy and have to wait longer.
Had a not so lovely convo with H about our credit this evening as a matter of fact. He was surprised my FICO was so high. I almost said, "Ya, one more reason for us not to get back together- you'd drag my credit back down." but I didn't. I may later though. He was trying to explain something to me that he should have explained 4 years ago when this all started but neglected to. Yes, I felt the "too little too late" and it probably showed on my face. But dam it. We're in this sit because he never talked. I'm suffering right now because of his mistakes and lack of communication from 4 years ago. I really don't need to hear it all now. I've figured it out on my own already and I already know what I need to do. I don't need him telling me now.
ok that turned into a rant.
How do I tell him that He's satisfied with the status quo, he's still figuring things out, and I'm bored and ready to move on- without him if necessary. ???????????????
H emailed me about a funny yesterday. D called and left him a voicemail. His new VM service converted it to a text and sent it to him. It was all jumbled and words were left out. D asked if she could please spend the night at his house so she didn't have to go to school with me in the morning. She always starts, Hi this is D----. Cute really.
Well his text read I could please at your house tonight so hi.
He text me back and said please. So I called him and asked "Huh?" I explained the message and asked what his please meant. He said he was just confused.
So I replied no problem, and asked if he took the copy of my credit report he looked at. He replied, ya was he supposed to. So I just replied. And said he said he'd look at it and explain. I wasn't expecting him to keep it, I mean afterall, it was my credit report. I then added, not to sound mean, but what would be the point of him having it was.
My issue was he thought the message was from me since it was from my phone. He replied "please". It would have been a perfect opportunity to say- I replied "please" because I'd like for you to come over and that's what I thought you were saying. Instead- he wimped out and said- I was confused.
And no, I shouldn't have said- so you don't want me to come over? in response. I'm tired of ding things like that. I'm tired of trying to figure out exactly what he wants or says and trying to get it clarified.
As for the credit report. He replied that he thought I wanted him to take an deeper look at it. I replied that there was only one thing I wasn't sure of, everything else was fine.
He was trying to explain something to me that he should have explained 4 years ago when this all started but neglected to. Yes, I felt the "too little too late" and it probably showed on my face. But dam it. We're in this sit because he never talked. I'm suffering right now because of his mistakes and lack of communication from 4 years ago. I really don't need to hear it all now. I've figured it out on my own already and I already know what I need to do. I don't need him telling me now.