GK. Turn off the brain. She said you can have the cats. Stop worrying about what she thinks. You are afraid you may offend her and then she won't come back. Look at it this way. If that is the case, she is pretty shallow.
Well, my initial response is you don't have to tell her anything. If she asks, than tell her. But, there would be nothing wrong or bad with you offering that information if it makes you feel better.
And IMP is right (as he so often is!).
Hang in there!
Me-BS 38 X-WS 36 Separated 11/15/2006 Filed for D 8/1/2007 Divorce Final 12/21/2007 S13, S13 (twins), D9 Married 13 Yrs Together 20 Yrs
WOW! Sounds like she had a change of heart. No anger there.
That is good.
Enjoy yourself in Toronto. When my dad was alive, we went to Ontario every year fishing. We'd go around Toronto, but I always thought it would be a neat place to visit!
Have a good time, GK!
Me-BS 38 X-WS 36 Separated 11/15/2006 Filed for D 8/1/2007 Divorce Final 12/21/2007 S13, S13 (twins), D9 Married 13 Yrs Together 20 Yrs
I honestly expected her to put up a fight. I think she took so long to respond because she wanted to put up a fight. But she probably realized that my request was not unreasonable.
M:32 W:26 Kids: None Cats: 2 Together: 9 years Married: May 2005 Bomb: September 2006 Sep: November 2006
See--it can work. I was stunned at H's response too--and he had been very condescending and MEAN. He's still difficult but not like before.
I do think that boundaries make you more attractive.
I'd say a little more in your email. Tell her you're having a great time!!
Hey breton...thanks for the advice. I will definitely add a bit more to my response to her. I will keep it friendly. And I am having a great time here!! I am heading off to Niagra Falls in a couple of days - that's always fun! We were even contemplating a trip to New York City but I'll probably save that for when I move back here.
M:32 W:26 Kids: None Cats: 2 Together: 9 years Married: May 2005 Bomb: September 2006 Sep: November 2006
