Don't really know what to say except when "he" call YOUR home phone I would anser it. Aside form that don't say anything about the OM to your W. That only makes her like you less and him More.Who is taking care of the kids while she is away? Did she arrange something Or are you taking time off of work.
Husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
It is an amazing situation. Most people hide the affair. This is like going to the bathroom in the middle of the living room. To say it's not polite is an understatement.
My H has been openly having an affair for 7 months, so not that this is going to make you feel any better, but there are plenty of other people on here going through the same thing. We separated one week after he disclosed the affair, so I didn't have to have my nose rubbed in it everyday, but I also lost the contact with my H. He doesn't want a D but doesn't want to face reality of dealing with the consequences, so he just lives in la la land with OW. I'm sorry you are going through this, it sucks!
M:28, D finalized: 8/28/07 Current Thread
"When life gives you a hundred reasons to cry, show life that you have a thousand reasons to smile."
My oldest daughter is going to watch them while I'm at work. She is not working and 3wks from her due date. My 7yr old is the only one who really needs watching while I'm at work. My 2nd oldest is in summer school mornings and 3rd oldest is in soccer, softball, and music.
My W is kind of mad at me for putting the camper up for sale. She said she didn't really want to sell it. She is worried about telling her mom and everybody else whats going on, when she doesn't know anything. I told her that I wouldn't have sold it afficially w/out asking her. I spent about $130 on news paper ads. She said what are we going to do next pay period when she gets less, start charging. I said no, savings maybe, what I didn't say was our cell phone bill was $100 higher because of this. I think she is planning on savings for her 'vacation'. My councelor says of corse she is going to have a good time, no responsibilities while she is gone.
Me 37 W 37 D21 D17 D12 S8 grandparents 7/07 boy Married 16 yrs last June 07 Bomb dropped 4/07
"Do what you feel in your heart to be right-for you'll be criticized anyway. You'll be damned if you do, and damned if you don't", Eleanor Roosevelt
Hey LS, do you think you are easy with your wife because of your own infidelity? That is how I am reading it. How can you come down on her or demand respect when you are guilty of the same behaviour?
I came home today same thing, she is on the phone, walks by me says sorry and goes into the other room to talk. I go upstairs to check out my new to me DB book, read a little and it already sounds good.
If you are doing the 180 should you not talk to her at all? Or is it more to show her how well you are doing?
I would really like to show or tell her some of the good things I have read that make so much sence.
During supper I asked the kids what they wanted to do this weekend. Daughter #3 said the lake because daughter #2 didn't get to go last Saturday. My wife said she didnt really want me to take them cause she wouldnt see them then, I said she could come with. Then I said do you want me to do something w/them one day and you the next, she said she didn't know. Then she was leaving to go taning, I said why dont you wait till the lake. She said its relaxing. I'm still packing up and going to the lake for the day weather she wants to come or not! Fun in the Sun.
Me 37 W 37 D21 D17 D12 S8 grandparents 7/07 boy Married 16 yrs last June 07 Bomb dropped 4/07
"Do what you feel in your heart to be right-for you'll be criticized anyway. You'll be damned if you do, and damned if you don't", Eleanor Roosevelt
Well how much more real can it get. I was upstairs in our closet geeting stuff for the lake and her suit cases are packed. The suit cases that we took on our first big vacation this year in March to Mecico(The best vacation ever). I'm getting very depressed.
Me 37 W 37 D21 D17 D12 S8 grandparents 7/07 boy Married 16 yrs last June 07 Bomb dropped 4/07
"Do what you feel in your heart to be right-for you'll be criticized anyway. You'll be damned if you do, and damned if you don't", Eleanor Roosevelt
Light, You know what they say, there is a fine line between love and hate. I think most of us are definitely undestanding that saying more than we ever wanted to. I know I get so mad and hurt by H, but how do you turn off the feelings for your spouse of so many years. It will be 21 years of marriage for us this month and 25 years together in August. We are only human. We have a past with them. We have shared so many bonds with them. Unfortunately, it seems to be easy for them. My H served me with D papers two weeks ago after 8 mos. of separation. I'm so sorry for your hurt.
Yoyo
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
